Let me guess, they did the classic projection case of acting like they were mad because they felt "tricked"?

We had a friend who we'd call when we were leaving wherever to go to his house to pick him up, "Hey, were outside." We would get to his house and wait 5-10m for him to come out because he was getting his shit together. So we'd call 5-10m before we got there. Love him though.

"I was freaking out for an hour when I didn't have to??"

"Are you saying you would have rather spent an hour somewhere else and didn't want to admit it to out faces?"

Seriously though, it is disingenuous to tell them it's an hour early. But it's also rude to repeatedly be an hour late to things. You could argue being late is accidental and lying about a start time is intentional but after everything is said and done, it's kind of a wash, and the point should have been made.

Simply telling them "hey, you're always an hour late, to the point where I'm tempted to tell you things start a hour earlier" may have been a more constructive way to approach things.

Just move to France and you will be just one time by being 30min late

My sister in law is chronically late. She uses this strategy and always tells herself a time 30 mins early, so she can get places on time.

On one occasion my brother asked her what time dance class for the kids was. She tells him 12:00, so my brother - being an "always on time" person - gets there for 11:45 so he's a little early.

Turns out the time my SIL told him was her personal fake start time, not the actual start time, so he's 45 mins early lol.

Honestly the thing that helped me the most with my time management was Google Maps repeatedly stabbing me in the back. I was always leaving at the last possible second, relying on maps to tell me what that second was.

When I moved to the city and traffic became a serious concern, Google's '20 minute' estimate would balloon out to 30 minutes on important appointments like doctor's visits and work. So now I look at the estimate, add the higher of ten minutes or 30% to it, and make it comfortably on time to wherever I was meant to go.

Being 15 minutes early is on time.
Being on time is being late.
Shit happens.

On time is late. Nowhere do you show up "on time" and get started immediately. If you're getting to your 9am appointment at 9am, you've not accounted for parking, walking in, literally saying hello, taking your jacket off, whatever.

well a big part of being late is not liking waiting around if you show up too early

Same. Have an appointment 20 minutes away? Ooh, better leave 40 minutes before, just in case.

With the traffic, road work, and detours sometimes thrown in the way, this habit has been quite helpful. The last appointment I had let me in early because there was availability as soon as I arrived, so I got to leave earlier than expected.

Wowimcured

Nah. I can't stand people who are late for everything, because I somehow get there on time and early in spite of all the things trying to make me late. But every day I sit and wait for people who aren't. There's nothing stopping someone from being considerate to others and respectful of their time.

I know this probably won't help but it's kind of funny. My D&D group years ago had one member who was consistently an hour or more late. So the DM started telling her the game was an hour earlier. People would show up slightly early for the real time, and she would straggle in apologetically, pretty much right on time. Worked like a charm for almost a year before she finally caught on.

Something always happens and because I'm not hyper sensitive about time I don't really mind if I'm delayed.

It's usually because the cats won't come in. But I can't say I couldn't come because I was worried the cats would get wet so instead I blame traffic.

Yeah time gets wonky for us

Nope doesn't work. When the alarm goes off I ignore it, because I have 2 minutes.

attention? who does that? i can say for certain i don’t know a single person… i hate being late (and frequently am). it’s awkward and embarrassing and nothing else

Boy what the fuck are you talking about. Attention-seeking? If it were attention-seeking, why didn't people with disorders predicated on attention-seeking consistently go around being late all the time? You must have diagnosed yourself off Tiktok or Instagram because this is a comically off the mark reasoning.

Why are you late? Do you leave your house too late? Is the traffic bad? What's the reason.

I'm never late, I always plan for things to go wrong and usually I'm too early and have some time to chill before something starts.

No, I'm places on time. While waiting on your tardy ass isn't the problem, it's still problematic. Get your shit in a pile. Our time is finite and valuable, not a soul wants to spend it waiting on someone who basically lied about when and where they'll be.

I don't see how time blindness prevents you from setting an alarm.

The poster is being sarcastic. She's got ADHD herself and is a very avid poster in the ADHD meme sub. The point of this post is that the guy in the screenshot is ignorant.