I like all genders and all body types and skin/hair colors. Never cheated.

Where's my parade?

(Joke comment.) If I count facial hair, I have several hair colours. I won't be cheated on by my partn... oh, I'm the bi poly one in the couple, and she only has one colour. (Or two, because of our age.) Shit I'm essetially condemned to cheat on her with a rainbow wig. (End of the joke.)

Yeah, and strangely none among the cheaters and the cheating apologists I personnally know claimed to be anything other than mono cishet. Strange (sarcasm) how direspectful and harmful behaviour linked to an expression of power are most seem in the dominant group.

"thinking sex is the main driver in a relationship" Yeah, this belief is too widespread. I feel for ace folks. And for aro folks too, since the same take is often made about romantic love. (Disclaimer: I'm neither.)

There are many potential driving factors in relationships. Can be sex, can be romantic love, can be another kind of love, can be trust, etc. Also, friendship is a perfectly valid kind of relationship too.

It can also be harmful things in the case of toxic relationship. Example: being convinced one's partner will cheat because they're bi. But as such relationships mostly bring harm, they're best avoided. (Not easy because of psychological control/domination mechanics.)

sex is the main driver in a relationship

Is it?

You’re right, biphobia is not found in straight people alone. I’ve been rejected within my own community because I’m bisexual and not a “gold star” lesbian. It stings even more that way to be honest.

Don’t forget they also think bi men are just making a stop before getting off at full-on-gay town.

I'm not sure men feel more guilty about their homophobic views, they're just more upfront about them lol

Yes, it is distressing to join up with other women thinking they are a safe space and come to find out they hold beliefs that are inherently biphobic. Even if they feel like their views only extend to bisexual men, it does extend to all bisexuals.

Yes, people have every right to choose who they spend time with, but if they are choosing to reject all people of a specific group because of their sexual orientation, it is still a preference rooted in homophobia. Whether they're conscious of it or not.

All people have a right to be treated with honesty, dignity, and respect, and not disclosing how you identify before I decide to have sex with you or not is a part of that.

It's just too general and unrelated to actual relationship dynamics to make sense. If they don't tell you they're bi, you might never find out. If the reason for not wanting to date someone whos bi is that you're not comfortable with your partner finding the same people attractive that you do, then weird but I think that'd be something sorta valid.

The reasons given are all on a scale of biphobia to just misunderstanding it (e.g. the insecurity). The more general answers might be personal hangups, but those too are likely rooted in a culture that sees bi people negatively.

Not sure that's how a "phobia" works.