You're in a bar being offered a shot...

I have trouble with communication and often times the intensity knob is higher than it needs to be. Rarely out of anger; it’s just that I get deep into a subject sometimes and feel it. I have to treat it as a constant learning experience.

I also try to always remember that reacting is a choice. Tons of people and topics will be a trigger, but I know that in most cases I can simply remove myself from the equation and the frustration boils off eventually. I had to do that earlier today. I ran into a serial conversation hijacker-killer type in a Slack channel I’m a regular in. When I was talking about a struggle I have with learning and retaining information in the AI age, they instantly hijacked it to make it about them. I could’ve replied casually, lashed out, been passive aggressive. I caught myself, paused, and logged out of the Slack channel. Playing video games for a while brought me back to a more controlled headspace again.

Meh, don't hate yourself over it, that isn't useful.

Also, it's appropriate to be annoyed at Jaeger for not reading the room and sending attractive girls to a gay bar.

First you gotta let go of harshly judging yourself for this.

Just look at it as another opportunity to reinforce the script you'd like to have in your head instead of the one you followed.

This is a Cognitive Behavioral Technique - we operate on default scripts for stuff, changing the script gives us new ways to respond. For an easy intro to CBT, check out the book "Your Erroneous Zones" by Wayne Dyer (yea, he intended the title as a play on Erogenous Zones).

(I say all this as a misanthropic bastard)

It would be closer to being offered to spike your hair for free.