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[–] 57 points 3 months ago (4 children)

there's a secret third option "I don't know if I can do something about it, I keep trying different things, and things keep failing through and going wrong, and I keep trying again and getting up hope, and I keep failing and being disappointed, but should i try other things? but wait maybe this'll work, that's exciting! But what if it doesn't work like everything else... aaaaaaa I'm stressed"

then it does make sense to worry

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  • [–] 2 points 3 months ago

    I don't know. I feel like I had that mentality for a while, actually. It led to an increase amount of background stress which would then increase exponentially when I would "fail".

    Letting go of that mentality helped me to be a lot more at peace. Don't get me wrong, it still creeps back up from time to time. I'm only human, after all.

    But life isn't a series of fails and wins. Life just is. Events occur. Some bring us up a bit and some bring us down a bit. You can't control everything about the universe. Things happen. Time passes. You do the best you can in life and see what events will unfold. Be gentle to yourself when negative things happen. You can't control everything. You are a human being, not a robot. Not a deity.

    Or maybe landing on a specific psych med helped me a bit too idk.

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  • [–] 22 points 3 months ago (4 children)

    What if I can do something but I'm too lazy to do it?

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  • [–] 8 points 3 months ago

    Alternatively, what if you can do something about it but you're not sure what that is, so you're caught in decision paralysis. And then outsider observers call that "lazy" because it's easier than empathizing with someone who is experiencing a pronounced difficulty?

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  • [–] 17 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    You can always

    1. try to change a situation
    2. try to remove yourself from a situation
    3. try to accept a situation

    The worst thing you can do it be lazy about changing / leaving a situation yet constantly complain about it.

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  • [–] 14 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    I always hate when people say “it is what it is” but they’re right. It is.

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  • [–] 9 points 3 months ago (4 children)

    What if my problem is a bear chewing on my face?

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  • [–] 6 points 3 months ago

    Have i done something about it?

    No

    Worry

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  • [–] 6 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    Don't worry

    lol

    lmao, even

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  • [–] 4 points 3 months ago (2 children)

    Me, asphyxiating: "Nothing I can do about this except tilt my head back and take a deep breath and... oh wait".

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  • [–] 6 points 3 months ago
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    I'm from the previous generation so to me it wasn't Timon & Pumbaa, but rather Baloo (and Mowgli) signing in French about the bare necessities: Il en faut peu pour être heureux. Vraiment très peu pour être heureux. Il faut se satisfaire du nécessaire.

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  • [–] 3 points 3 months ago

    Ohhhhh no no, theres a misunderstanding. I dont have a problem with being helpless, my problem is that i cant get myself to solve stuff i know i can and i stress about that

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  • [–] 3 points 3 months ago

    I have one problem, existing on planet earth. Only 50 more years left of my shift on earth.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 months ago

    But my job at the worrying department? I love that job!

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  • [–] 1 point 3 months ago

    All I see is a head blissfully rolling off of a pathway into the sweetness of oblivion, one question at a time.

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  • [–] -4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 child)

    Shikata ga nai

    Bonus points if you get the reference.

    Edit: I will not be responding. Don't waste your time.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 months ago

    I've only heard shōganai by westerners describing life in Japan, and then while watching videos of the tsunami in 2011. And as others have said, it may be a reference for you, but isn't it just a common saying? Common enough that someone from the other side of the planet knows it, but not your reference.

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