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[–] 28 points 2 hours ago (5 children)

Just be clean and treat women like people. The bar is SO LOW

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  • [–] 1 point 10 minutes ago

    I’m not quite sure how to say this, but the bar is definitely above there. I’m sure many women have these stories of people falling below it and having lowered their standards, but there are also guys (like me) that have received zero to zero attention while being very socially open in a lot of contexts.

    Worse, there’s often a conclusive reaction of “If that’s the case, you must be doing something wrong”. I know I’m not my own best judge, but I don’t believe that. I show interest in people’s lives and hardship, be kind, stay clean, and it doesn’t appear to make a difference.

    People as a whole (not just women) are less prone to haphazard connections than they used to be. More generally, it ties in with the difficulty making friends as an adult. Attractiveness concerns could tie into that, but I can’t say for sure.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 hour ago (1 child)

    Absolutely this!

    I'm not particularly good looking and I've been overweight/unfit my entire life.

    I have NEVER had problems getting dates or getting laid. I'm polyamorus these days, which narrows down the dating pool quite a bit and it still is not an issue.

    The secret is just...be honest? Be authentic and treat people like people, regardless of their gender.

    The bar really is low.

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  • [–] 1 point 13 minutes ago

    I agree. I am a pretty damaged person and always had weight problems, but after i turned 18, the first time i am single is now - i'm 45 now. Difference to the people i knew that always had problems finding a partner was mainly listening, treating women like everyone else, and having some fucking decency.

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