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People who delete their posts after getting answers that don't fit your narrative, why? (lemmy.world)
submitted 8 hours ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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Moment of clarity? Embarrassed? Lost control of an antagonistic agenda?

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[–] 72 points 8 hours ago (10 children)

I used to do this when I was on reddit from 2011-2026.

I did it because I'm a narcissist. Like actually, I was diagnosed with NPD in 2023. People disagreeing with me physically hurts. I don't know how to explain it but when a person has a worldview disagreeing with me, it feels like an attack on me and causes this kind of ache in my chest.

Everything just gets translated to, "Oh, you think this way? God, you're fucking stupid! I HATE YOU!" We cannot just disagree because my opinions and worldviews are so intrinsically linked with me. My whole world is me looking into a mirror and seeing nothing but my face. If it reflects something else, that's frightening.

I obviously am trying to be a better person now and don't react the same anymore, but in the day that is why I would do it.

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  • [–] 28 points 8 hours ago (1 child)

    Being a narcissist sound surprisingly like have zero inward confidence and self esteem every time I hear it described. Is that at all accurate?

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  • [–] 1 point 38 minutes ago*

    In a overly simplified way yes. It tends to be more the inability to have self confidence or lacking the natural ego to foster it healthily. So a over correction occurs.

    With out treatment or outside help that results in problematic behavioural responses, and other issues.

    So funny enough the lack of self esteem results in a facade of too much self esteem.

    Again this is GROSSLY over simplifying it and doesn't even cover some of the more complex expressions of the topic.

    Least this is how it's been explained to me by phycologists when we where helping my uncle deal with his narcissistic and bipolar disorders.

    That man was a walking mine field of mental issues. Thankfully he's doing better now, only took 40+ years.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 hours ago

    Thank you for writing this.

    I'm from the neurodiverse crowd so while I might not be able to relate completely or agree, I can completely relate to the situation of people telling me they understand but behaving in a way that proves they really don't and really can't.

    Best wishes for your progress!

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