Despite my one moment of sheer misandry, which I apologize for...I love you guys ❤️

I probably can't offer much in the way of comfort...

NSFW, TMI...I mean, all I can offer is my body, and I doubt you'd want that :P...

...but I really, truly, honestly appreciate all of you guys. Really 💜

Without men, my life would be pretty boring and honestly pointless. And I don't just mean for sexual reasons...

NSFW, TMI...well, the sexual reasons are a big and important part of it too, ngl, but they're not the only reason.

I see and appreciate you. You matter 🩷
To me. To your families. To everyone here ❤️

This isn't much comfort, but if any of you guys needs someone to talk to, my Matrix account is:
@horny_miisha:chat.blahaj.zone
Feel free to reach out!

You're not alone. You're never alone. I love you guys 💜

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[–] 57 points 13 hours ago (14 children)

No Nut November echoes practices of celibacy, shame of masturbation, and control over others sex lives that religious types love to use to keep their congregation guilty and seeking to be absolved through the church for very normal human urges.

Personally, I think it’s a bad thing to shame anyone for masturbating or framing masturbation as something that is dirty or addictive like it’s a drug or something. I’m sure it doesn’t help men’s mental health to do so.

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  • [–] 5 points 9 hours ago (3 children)

    My roommate and I did NNN in August. He has been struggling for a long time with severe porn addiction and really wanted to feel some power over it, so I suggested he take a month off cold turkey and I'd join him in solidarity. It was fun. There really doesn't need to be any shame. To me it's just an amusing exercise in observing and controlling my instincts.

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  • [–] 6 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

    I was referring more to the drive behind the movement. I'm glad that taking a break worked well for you both!

    Just a side note (and not a judgy one, just a note) - you don't need to use porn to masturbate. Taking a break from porn doesn't necessarily mean you have to stop masturbating! It is healthy to masturbate, particularly for your prostate :)

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  • [–] 0 points 12 hours ago (6 children)

    Maturation is a treat. You can have too much, but a little is OK.

    No nut November should help everyone remember to slow down on the junk food every now and then.

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  • [–] 15 points 12 hours ago (5 children)

    No, masturbation is not a reward or treat. It's normal.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 hours ago (4 children)

    OK well I hear you but the "gooning" crowd and chronically online masturbaters are being unhealthy, im not being a prude. You guys are reacting to traditional values and im just saying there is such a thing as too much. If you are spending more than 30 minutes a day looking at porn that is probably a problem.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 hours ago (1 child)

    I don't think we should take advice from someone who compares masturbation to junk food.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 hours ago

    Suit yourself. I don't know how much is too much, but acting like there is no such thing... We know there are people who have problems with excessive porn, maturation, hell, sex addiction is a thing.

    I think you guys are pushing back against societal repression, which is great, but you still need to be mindful that you don't push back too far.

    Im being a killjoy, sure, I get that. But let's be real.

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