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[–] 2 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Because they didn't say that so I assume it is not. Especially because they put it up on twitter to show off.

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  • [–] 3 points 5 days ago (2 children)

    That's pretty messed up to me. We don't need to be rape-jacketing D/s dynamics like this. There's no reason to assume this was a negative experience.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 child)

    Well I try to assume the best of everyone, so I would also assume that this was a positive experience. However this does not invalidate my post. Something can be positive and still against consent or negative but under consent. The post pictures the situation in a exploring phase of the dynamic where consent may not be established for edge play or Tunnelspiele ( I don't know if this even has an English word sorry, it's a situation that can't be opted out for example when you eat a hot pepper and have to wait till it's not spicy anymore)

    For me this is not about invalidating BDSM dynamics, I life in a pretty happy one myself. it is about awareness that stuff like this should be discussed and can have a negative impact on the dynamic if it is not.

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  • Okay, I see where you're coming from and can agree with the perspective. I only take issue with the assumption that there was a lack of consent because it wasn't explicitly mentioned. We don't know what their safety system is, and the dominant could very well have been acting on something that was discussed, just exploring methods on how to achieve that result. But you're right, for something like this, you need to both have discussed exploration like that beforehand AND have a decent understanding of how your sub in that moment may end up in subdrop. Thanks for clarifying!

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