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[–] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Is this a CBT concept? I always hated CBT. It felt so invalidating.

No. You can be upset and it can be incredibly painful without it being a maladaptive response. For example...not getting the job you applied for, being bullied, being rejected by your crush, a death in the family, etc.

I prefer DBT's approach at integrating both logic AND emotions.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    I only briefly did CBT, but I thought it was more about controlling your behaviour so you don't spiral. I.e. your partner left a dirty dish out. You can feel annoyed (can't help that) but maybe don't have a tantrum like you did last time and turn it into a whole conflict.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    DBT also very much addresses behaviors. It's in the name still after all haha. Both CBT and DBT are "behavioral" therapies. But imo it does it in a far less invalidating and far more reasonable and compassionate way. I used to try to "logic" everything away to an extreme degree...it was so counterproductive that it exacerbated the opposite...extreme emotional instability. Once DBT taught more on how to actually integrate the feelings, it felt a lot better. Your emotions are so incredibly important and what makes you human.

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