So I joined a local discord server that was really appealing to me and has IRL meetings. I got emotionally invested in it and really excited to go to the next meeting. BUT they canceled it last minute!!! Since I was super excited I got really mad instead. I tried to recover the lost timeslot by DMing people who were going to attend the meeting if they wanted to hang out. I thoroughly checked if they said "ask for DM" or "DMs open" in their profile and everything and I had the server rules in mind. I made some good connections but no one agreed to hang out. One person specifically clarified that they are only comfortable meeting in the group setting not one on one (I also watched their Drag Show performance on the night before, and we talked on stage after and agreed to meet up at said meeting). I also expressed my emotions in the chat. Several people got concerned about my enraged behavior and reached out to the mods and I got banned as fast as the staff could respond. A big factor in the ban was that the feedback was really delayed; no one told me what I was doing wrong exactly until 2 days after I made several bad social mistakes in the meantime.

Can we talk about the mental health aspect of this please?

Hey everyone, my friend is tackling 13.1 miles for the National Kidney Federation. Requesting support. If any kind soul here has a spare $2, $5 or $10 to cheer her on, here’s the link - https://www.justgiving.com/page/jinal-sarvaiya-1

No pressure, just sharing the love!

Thank you!

I just happen to connect yesterday and found someone from lemmy with intense dark posts, they seem to be having a really bad time/mental breakdown.

I don't know them and I don't have knowledge, time and space in my head for helping the right way I think, would anyone here have some resources to help ? Or time ?

If you ask in private message I may give more details, this user doesn't know I read stuff from them, sorry I don't know how to do this, thank you anyway 🙏

cross-posted from: https://anarchist.nexus/post/220319

URGENT! My friend @stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com is about to go homeless tomorrow! Please help!

Hello. My friend, @stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com, is about to become homeless in just 24 hours-He's short on 700$CAD for this month, since he's spent this entire month looking for a roommate; and "found" one; only, this roommate did not have the money to pay rent anyway, and would have made everything worse.

So here we are. Winter is coming and he'll be homeless for a whole month. He is in Newfoundland, it'll be incredibly dangerous for him and i am concerned.

Please, if you have even a dollar to spare, i ask of you to donate to him; anything helps. https://ko-fi.com/stamets

Thank you. ❤️

I’m really desperately fucked and my electricity is supposed to be shut off soon. I’m not sure if I’m going to make enough for rent this month.

I’m a very good tutor. I can do math at all levels, basic programming, essay editing and feedback, chemistry (not organic), physics.

I’m sorry if this isn’t the right community but if I could just find a few people who’d give me $20 to do a video walkthrough of an assignment that would help. I don’t want to ebeg, I want to provide a service in exchange for money.

i recently wrote a few from the top of my mind so i wanna share that comment while also asking for curated media which help staving off doom & gloom.

1955 🇸🇪 Plupp ("official nonbinary protagonist of several dozen books, also a sami character (scandinavian native)"
1964 🇸🇪 Vi På Saltkråkan ( Life on Seacrow Island, "feminist feelgood childrenscartoon- like all of Astrid Lindgren's manuscripts and books" )
1969 🇺🇸 the Madwoman of Chaillot ("Katherine Hepburn literally takes care of the oligarchs, military officials, corrupt priests.. who all look as pathetic as they actually are in this movie. happy ending.")
1969 🇷🇺 Gena the Crocodile
1969 🇷🇺 The Bremen Town Musicians
1971 🇷🇺 Cheburashka
1974 🇷🇺 Shapoklyak
1974 🇸🇪 Lilla Anna och Långa farbrorn (little Anna and the Tall Uncle)
1977 🇸🇪 Bögjävlar (no name, literally is a reclaimed slur like fags in swedish. lovely auto-biographical documentary by gays giving eachother solidarity and empathy in sweden one year before the juridical acknowledgement of gays here.")
1979 🇷🇺 Three from Prostokvashino
1979 🇸🇪 Alfons Åberg
1981 🇸🇪 Ronja Rövardotter ( Ronia robber's daughter, book. "feminist as all books by Astrid Lindgren" )
1982 🇸🇪 Trazan & Banarne ("surrealist socialist childrens show with music, a feminist & environmentalist monthy python")
1983 🇷🇺 Cheburashka goes to school
1984 🇸🇪 Zwampen ("surrealist socialist childrens show, a feminist & environmentalist monthy python")
1984 🇸🇪 Ronja Rövardotter ( Ronia robber's daughter, film. "feminist as all manuscripts by Astrid Lindgren" )
1984 🇯🇵 Nausicaä of the Valley of the Wind (ghibli film)
1985 🇸🇪 Skrotnisse och hans vänner (ScrapNisse and his friends)
1985 🇺🇸 Misfits of Science ("socialist X-Men, anti-militarism, anti-corruption, solidarity between misfits.")
1985 🇺🇸 Desert Hearts ("approved by Jane Rule, writer of the '60s lesbian book Desert of the Heart. lesbians & queer people embracing eachother in solidarity. happy ending.")
1988 🇯🇵 My Neighbour Totoro (ghibli film)
1989 🇯🇵 Kiki's Delivery Service (ghibli film)
1990 🇫🇮🇯🇵🇳🇱 Mumin (Tanoshii Mūmin Ikka) ("this is the comfiest cartoon. my childhood TV is here for you <3 also made by lesbian author Tove Jansson, who shows a queer village where social norms are empathy and solidarity.")
1997 🇯🇵 Princess Mononoke (ghibli film)
1999 🇨🇦 Better Than Chocolate ("drama film, main cast of LGBTQIA+ characters. happy ending after some turmoil.")
2002 🇸🇪 Dragkingdom of Sweden ("sympathic portrayal of drag culture, loveliest representation of dragkings i've come across, focusing on six dragkings who tell of their LGBTQIA+ community")
2004 🇸🇪🇫🇷🇨🇦 Creepschool ("misfit kids growing up by empathizing with eachother in a gothic school")
2004 🇯🇵 Howl's Moving Castle (ghibli film)
2007 🇺🇸 Itty Bitty Titty Committee ("lesbian activists having fun")
2020 🇺🇸 the Owl House ("not always cheery, can be harsh to watch. protagonists are all LGBTQIA+, main character unapologetically nonbinary.")
2022 🇺🇸 Infinity Train ("season 2 protagonist is transgender, 4th season protagonists are a mid-twenties gay couple. a few episodes from 1st season establishes the premise- very alright to skip ahead to later seasons after the first episode or so.")