URGENT! My friend @stamets@lemmy.dzer0.com is about to go homeless tomorrow! Please help! : Help

URGENT! My friend @stamets@lemmy.dzer0.com </u/stamets@lemmy.dzer0.com> is about to go homeless tomorrow! Please help! (ko-fi.com)

submitted 1 year ago by Kasane_Teto@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/Help_Others@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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cross-posted from: https://anarchist.nexus/post/220319

URGENT! My friend @stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com is about to go homeless tomorrow! Please help!

Hello. My friend, @stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com, is about to become homeless in just 24 hours-He's short on 700$CAD for this month, since he's spent this entire month looking for a roommate; and "found" one; only, this roommate did not have the money to pay rent anyway, and would have made everything worse.

So here we are. Winter is coming and he'll be homeless for a whole month. He is in Newfoundland, it'll be incredibly dangerous for him and i am concerned.

Please, if you have even a dollar to spare, i ask of you to donate to him; anything helps. https://ko-fi.com/stamets

Thank you. ❤️

[–] Kasane_Teto@lemmy.dbzer0.com [S] 29 points 1 year ago (16 children)

important note, even if you can’t donate (like me) you can still repost it to places where there are people who can and are willing to

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[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 40 points 1 year ago (15 children)

I'm getting kind of overwhelmed by all of this. I wasn't going to even make a post, I didn't expect anyone else to. I was just stressing privately in a matrix channel... Like... I don't want to cause problems for people or upset people or be taking help or attention away from other people who need it far more than my (incredibly) lucky ass. Despite the situation I've been put in (partially due to my own stupidity and willingness to trust someone), I'm incredibly lucky to have the friends I do. but I don't want to... I don't know. I don't know how to people. I definitely don't know how to people when people are being nice to me and trying to help when I barely care about myself. This sounds mopey and stupid. I'm sorry.

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[–] Kasane_Teto@lemmy.dbzer0.com [S] 12 points 1 year ago (7 children)

there’s no need to be sorry, you are just as entitled to your feelings as anyone else on this spinning slightly ovalish ball of water, and I just wish everyone gets what they need, that’s communities like this are for, to help, you deserve help as much as anyone else in your situation, also don’t be too harsh on yourself, being manipulated was not ur fault. I wish you the best and hope u get back on ur feet. <3

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[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Still. Just feels like I'm manipulating the community or something. Self-hatred is a fun thing to deal with.

Thank you though for everything... seriously I can't thank you or anyone else enough

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[+] DeceasedPassenger@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago (5 children)

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[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 year ago* (4 children)

I don't mean specifically you here, but it is strange when people call me a valued part of this website when I do not value myself at all. Both on the website as well as in my own life. So many more people deserve so much more attention. That's why it feels like it's manipulation to me I had to be a people pleaser to deal with my psychopath mother and now as an adult anytime that I please people or start getting attention things feel wrong. It turns out that I actually do enjoy like pleasing people, but only when it's on my terms But I don't like getting anything in return for it because then it feels... I don't know. Maybe that's just insanely deep trauma that I need to unpack with a therapist that I also cannot afford. Who knows? The point being is that I genuinely can say that I could not care less about money right now and I just want a hug. I think I legitimately am going to go to a Tim Hortons tomorrow and just ask to hug the first friendly looking stranger I see.

And thank you for everything. I don't care if somebody donates money or not. That isn't what I'm thanking here. I'm just thanking people for actually caring about me when I couldn't care less about myself. It's a weird feeling. Not a bad one. Just really difficult to try and process.

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[+] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)

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[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I appreciate it and might take you up on that sometime. Mostly because I'm just kind of lonely and don't talk to a whole lot of people in general despite all the shit I post lol but thank you. So much. I'm sorry you had to go through that too though. Not exactly something I'd wish on anyone...

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[+] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 year ago (1 child)

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[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 year ago

I just get stressy that I'm burdening people too much. I feel like I whine a lot. One reason why I send a lot of random funny shit to everyone too or be funny myself.

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[–] BenLeMan@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Okay, I sent a few bucks even though the original funding goal has been achieved. If some more folks chip in we might even be able to get you a new CPAP machine, or at least some new filters. Good luck, man!

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[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Sorry I ended up passing out in a heap of exhaustion last night. The original goal on the ko-fi thing I had just never updated from last month when I was asking for help. That being said, it was still over the goal. I moved it last night to what it should have been and then passed out before commenting to you.

Well, a new cpap is $1700, rent is $700 and $900ish was raised (still floored). So another $1500 for a cpap and like... no. I'll suffer with the shitty one I have that works occasionally. That at least works and isn't a major risk. Filters I also have a lot of. There was a dude in Toronto who gave me a box of them years ago that they get for stock. Like... hundreds of filters. I've still got about 100 left. Luckily distilled water is also really easy to get here. In Toronto it was bought up fucking instantly by everyone and I could never find any. I had to get a distiller myself but breathing in metal tasting water is icky.

Thank you though. Seriously. To you and everyone else. I'm running out of ways to say it because I'm just... stunned. Confused. I don't know. But deeply, deeply, deeply thankful

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[–] wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago (1 child)

I get that you don't want to feel like you're abusing peoples' good will, but not having good quality sleep is going to make many things harder.

I also notice that you're just asking for rent help, and I remember seeing a post from you a while back mentioning dumpster diving for food. Do you have a reliable and safe source of food? Lack of that isn't good either, not that it really needs to be said.

Also, if you'll pardon me stepping onto a soapbox for a moment: I know we're a weird disparate community of pseudonymous nerds online, but this sort of thing is what communities are meant for. Being able to help spread out both the abundances and the lack of things (hard to find the right words for what I mean here) over a larger group so that everyone makes it through.

I have strong feelings that there has been concentrated efforts over generations to push people towards being more isolated, so that when hard times come they don't look to their neighbors and community members, but instead to whatever central controlling authority is in their area. And that authority should provide for the people under it, but it furthers the control it has over them.

Point is, small scale redistribution of wealth/supplies/etc within a community is in my opinion a big part of what community is for, and a key to humanity making it so damn far.

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[–] Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 year ago*

Eh. The machine works well enough. Sometimes it gets weird. I think it's probably more of a problem with me needing to see a sleep doc and being unable to at the moment. Besides, this is fucking expensive. $1,775 for that is... nutty. Now, granted, that is the whole package machine with the mask and stuff and you could get one for just the machine for a bit cheaper but my mask and hose and shit need replacing anyway. Something I will get to eventually when it is an absolute emergency but for right now it's whatever. That is a lot of dollarydoos, even if they're Canadian dollarydoos. As for food, I'll be fine. I'm not super worried about that. I've got a friend I definitely do not deserve and food banks exist. I feel bad taking her help as often as I have but yeah. I just feel bad for a lot.

I'm with you on the push for isolation. Even as a teenager like 20 years ago (fuck) I can remember there being a ton of places that required no payment in order to get in. Places where kids could play video games or little water parks or open swimming pools or whatever else. Now everything is locked behind payment and kids can't pay that shit without the parents but everything is being nickel and dimed. Now there's barely anything.

I just have a hard time taking it myself. Internal trauma from a not so great childhood and therapy is not easy to afford or get in Canada. I'm definitely one of those types who keeps thinking that whenever their abuser passes away they'll feel better but probably won't. Something I'm working on. Just not easy to do.

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