You took my reply way too seriously.

I'm not a historian so I can't really debate this. Of course Hitler was selectively pro-life, the whole nazi shit is exactly that (and why many back then didn't want to see what happened initially - after all the Nazis gave white people "Kraft durch Freude" and holidays for their first time). Same crap happens in the USA right now, and of course many other countries. Though fortunately for democratic US-citizens still fighting the Trump regime is far less competent than the OG Nazis.

"kid-friendly" is a term encompassing all kids though. If you're unfriendly to some kids you're not kid-friendly. This applies to nazis, racists, religious assholes, ableists etc. all alike.

The Wannsee Conference didn't contain Hitler, but did include many higher ups making the explicit plans for the Shoah. It wasn't Hitler's first plan, deportation was, but any reasonable understanding of his long term plans would require eventual extermination. He was invading places he had sent Jewish people to.

Also non-Jewish victims didn't get the attempted deportation. Disabled Germans, criminals, communists, queer people, etc faced brutal prison labor and eventually extermination.

Ultimately, Hitler didn't give orders in a way where you can say "he ordered this to happen". He made his desires clear, and let the party vie for his favor. Had they not orchestrated the Shoah, party members would have been replaced with those who would

Was it a clear order and idea of Hitler?

Yes.