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[+] -26 points 2 months ago (23 children)

There are other ways to catch cheating that don't involve illegally recording someone without their consent.

The fact that people in here are trying to justify crimes against this woman is wild. Cheating doesn't strip away your rights or give permission for a spouse to abuse the other for cheating.

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  • [–] 28 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    I'm not disagreeing with you or justifying his actions. Just presenting the other side of the argument.

    I'm curious though. How would you propose he catch her cheating, including proof beyond reasonable doubt, that would guarantee a similar settlement or better?

    In the end, he got a nice settlement, but had to pay back a little less than a 3rd of it back for the recording. Sounds mostly fair, though I'd make it maybe a 5th or less instead of a 3rd.

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  • [–] 11 points 2 months ago

    How would you propose he catch her cheating, including proof beyond reasonable doubt, that would guarantee a similar settlement or better?

    If there is a start recording button there is a stop recording button, he could have tried to avoid filming during sex perhaps. Maybe there are other camera's in the house, or a video doorbell.. but generally I agree on this: it will be his word against her without any proof, the proof won't be proof when they're just in the same house at the same time. What's also weird if he would have entered the house and caught them having sex he wouldn't have invaded her privacy. If I were him i'd be upset I had to pay money but relieved to be receiving some and if i were her i'd be upset I had to pay money but relieved it could've been worse.

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  • [–] 12 points 2 months ago* (19 children)

    Please explain how you'd feel after the partner you are married to cheats on you, then sends you to jail for several months.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago (13 children)

    Christ, Lemmy really is going downhill. Someone is making an argument of fact, and you're making an argument on emotions.

    These are clearly not the same thing, yet you're still here making bad faith arguments.

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  • [+] -10 points 2 months ago (11 children)

    Just straight up justification for abuse from this user, my goodness.

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  • [–] 9 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (10 children)

    yeah, cheating isn't abuse that leads to long term psychological damage, go cheating lady, that's E M P O W E R M E N T! Go get them gals! No one can get evidence of you abusing a partner mentally, giving them trust problems for decades, since you're fucking someone, and that's fantastic!

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  • [–] -4 points 2 months ago (9 children)
  • [–] 4 points 2 months ago (8 children)

    what is your goal, what are you doing in this thread?

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  • [–] -4 points 2 months ago (7 children)

    Now I'm pushing back on your assertion that abuse is justified when there's cheating. You leave the relationship, you don't get permission to abuse your spouse.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 months ago (6 children)

    how do you leave the relationship while not being financially abused, which is abuse, if you are getting a divorce with no evidence of cheating?

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  • [–] -3 points 2 months ago (5 children)

    He could've recorded plenty after the sex happened and still have proof without violating sexual consent.

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  • [–] 7 points 2 months ago* (4 children)

    Your honour, my client is there talking to a friend of hers. It's *current year* are women not allowed to have male friends?

    yeah, sure.

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  • [+] -11 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    Your fantasies about murdering women are going to catch up to you.

    Hopefully before you actually harm someone.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    what fantasies? How are you a feminist(?) and don't understand that some places are putting laws about "femicide" to prevent that kind of murder?

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Femicide

    If men have to resort to vigilantism in these situations, it leads to femicide. If I state that, how does that make me have fantasies about murdering women?

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  • [+] -9 points 2 months ago (4 children)

    That doesn't allow me to start recording them having sex without consent, same as it doesn't allow me to hit them just because I'm angry.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 months ago (3 children)
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