It's pretty weird over on lemmy.sdf and I try to just take qrstuv (EDIT: this was wesker, not qrstuv. Wesker also gets up to some trolling) as some odd performance art. Funhole, Linux Surrealism, and bun alert are great, but most every other community is run by qrstuv, and they can be oddly tyrannical outside of Funhole. Their entire account is practically digital performance art. EDIT: Wesker tends to be a little bit more "normal" rather than too weird to die all the time, but there's still a ton of lighthearted in-joking and trolling going on.
I'm pretty sure that community was originally created by qrstuv to bait someone who was being shit in the Funhole community into complaining about the legitimate moderation actions taken against them, then see how long it took them to realize they were being responded to by the very person who banned them.
My take would be that, yes, it is absurd to call correcting terminology victim blaming, and that's the "joke".
EDIT: I'd actually check the mod log to see if any action was taken against you besides a trolling comment. Would be willing to bet there isn't actually.
Also, the joke of going: "Item A: blah, Item 2: blah" should be pointed out.
It's not a legitimate mod abuse community, it's effectively a -jerk style comm for shitposting around the theme.