That seems somewhat red-herring / strawman, like you're responding to some dyslexically re-scrambled arrangement of the words in the original post.

Neurodivergents will trigger people that avoid self-reflection simply by asking follow-up questions and being curious about them.

See how it does not preclude?

a little unfair to brand the other person as avoidant of self-reflection,

is talking about something else.

[ This is more a "those who" than a "they are". Following the logic?]

... Almost as if that could be a gaslighting darvo reflex to avoid self-reflection [~ perhaps about how triggered you get to questions about you? a wild conjecture to entertain, given it fits the data immediately available.].

... Have you considered this? (I ask, thinking it in reach for you, given your edit.)