Weaponized therapy speak is annoying, but this is a real phenomenon, just like people like you explaining that this everyday part of my life isn't actually happening and is all my fault and deserved if it is and...

That seems somewhat red-herring / strawman, like you're responding to some dyslexically re-scrambled arrangement of the words in the original post.

Neurodivergents will trigger people that avoid self-reflection simply by asking follow-up questions and being curious about them.

See how it does not preclude?

a little unfair to brand the other person as avoidant of self-reflection,

is talking about something else.

[ This is more a "those who" than a "they are". Following the logic?]

... Almost as if that could be a gaslighting darvo reflex to avoid self-reflection [~ perhaps about how triggered you get to questions about you? a wild conjecture to entertain, given it fits the data immediately available.].

... Have you considered this? (I ask, thinking it in reach for you, given your edit.)