- - - This is a comic strip - - - Tim and Jamie are lying in bed. Tim snuggles up to Jamie. Tim: HEY FLUFFIE SNUFFIE.  Jamie: HEY SNOOKIE POOKIE.  Tim: I SAW A WOMAN AT THE GROCERY STORE AND SHE LOOKED JUST LIKE YOU. Jamie: OH REALLY?  Jamie: DID YOU FIND HER ATTRACTIVE? Tim’s smile is wiped off of his face, as he realizes he set a trap for himself. Gets nervous, starts sweating.  Tim gets up and walks away with his pillow under his arm. Jamie: WHERE ARE YOU GOING, POOKIE? Tim: I’LL GO SLEEP ON THE COUCH. IT’S INEVITABLE.
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[–] 125 points 3 months ago (28 children)

Can you all really not acknowledge other people's hotness to your partner? As long as you don't try fucking them what's the issue? If they don't trust you why even be together?

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  • [–] 55 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    There's a few strands of toxic monogamy that are pretty common. Really jealous, controlling, and with poor emotional regulation.

    I'm lucky my current partner is very chill about these things. I'm still good friends with two previous partners and it's never been an issue. We've all hung out together.

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  • [–] 33 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (8 children)

    I'm in an open marriage with a slightly bi woman, and these boomer-tier memes are always so funny to me. We look at women together, and when she asks if I want to sleep with them it feels more like coaxing than a trap.

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  • [+] -12 points 3 months ago (6 children)

    You do realize 95% of the population can recognize themselves in this situation, right?

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  • [–] 16 points 3 months ago (4 children)

    Not really? As lightnsfw said, even if you're monogamous you should be able to notice attractive people without it turning into a fight.

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  • [+] -15 points 3 months ago* (3 children)

    And yet here we are. The joke wouldn't work if literally every man couldn't recognize this situation. Or are they all just mass deluded and you alone have seen the light? Just... Stop.

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  • [–] 14 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (4 children)

    Yes! And not just acknowledge hotness, but sometimes more depending on the couple. My husband and I not only acknowledge other people’s hotness - we will fuck them given the opportunity.

    Every person is different and every relationship is different.

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  • [–] 10 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    Same here. We allow each other to fuck others when given the chance. I can't wait for her stories

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  • [–] 2 points 3 months ago

    See, I have compersion (the opposite of jealousy where you’re happy someone else is happy without you), but my wife doesn’t. We’ve worked through polyam with a therapist, so we’re fine, but I would love for her to have a partner that isn’t mine also.

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  • [–] 7 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    I can see how my comment came off as disparaging people in open relationships. I didn't intend that. I was just directing it at those who are jealous, presumably because they're worried about their partner being interested in other people.

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  • [–] 5 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    Jealousy is one of those personality attributes that can swing (heh) wildly in intensity from one extreme to another for different people (or sometimes the same person at different stages of their life).

    It can be almost 100% emotional and irrational or can be "meh" or even "that's kinda hot".

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  • [+] -9 points 3 months ago (7 children)

    If people didn't date women who pull this shit humanity would go extinct.

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  • [–] 4 points 3 months ago* (3 children)

    None of the women I've been with have been jealous like this. I've had some point out other women they thought were hot to me. There's options. It's also not just women with jealousy problems men can be just as bad too.

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  • [–] 3 points 3 months ago (2 children)

    It's never happened to me either, but I've seen it happen to others. So YMMV I guess...

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