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I came out to a bunch of people and it went fine!!! (piefed.blahaj.zone)
submitted 4 months ago by to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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I’ve been slowly coming out to people for a while, but always like one person at a time. But now that I’ve been on HRT for a while (and my boobs are starting to get noticeable) I want to get this all over with and just be out to everyone.

So the other day, I texted my friend who organizes a group that we’re part of, and she was so supportive! And then I put a message in the Discord server for the group and everyone was so kind and supportive and just welcomed me with no hesitation!!! 🥰 It really made my whole week

Now it’s just the hard ones left (work and family), but at least I know I have my communities of support if I need them ❤️

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[–] 6 points 4 months ago (5 children)

If you’re at all worried about work, document some recent interactions with peers and managers. See if you can get some positive feedback in writing, too.
So if they react badly and start dicking you around, you have evidence of discrimination

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    Good advice, thank you! Unfortunately, my boss listens to Hannity at lunch every day and has told transphobic stories in our team meetings before as "jokes", so I'm probably going to quit and try to just start my next job with my new name. I'll still have to update folks in my industry that I know and get along with, but hopefully I can avoid having to deal with my asshole boss.

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  • [–] 8 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    Well, maybe record those instances as best you can. Come out, get a little bit of harassment and then take them to court and retire.

    Not an ideal plan, granted. But we can’t be letting Hannity-watchers have money.

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    Very true haha 😂 Agree it’s not the ideal plan, but if I don’t get an offer somewhere else soon, I might go for it! I’m just so sick of having to boymode every weekday.

    But I do already have a bit of a paper trail going on this stuff… I guess I just worry that HR would side with the director who has been here more than a decade, instead of the trans girl who’s been there less than 3.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago

    If things blow up, keep cool and if HR comes to you with something to sign - even if it means they'll pay you some compensation- DONT SIGN ANYTHING! Get an employment lawyer - they live for this shit, and some will work on commission. This could be a great opportunity!

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