I cringe every time I have to hear an allistic person talk down to me, so I get it. I think they sometimes even mean well, which I’m not sure is better or worse.

Most don’t, to be fair, but I’ve mostly found a way to be around like-minded (and some officially like-diagnosed) people in my personal and work life to minimize the problem. Helps me realize I’m not some isolated alien, just wired differently and I’m not alone.