submitted 6 months ago by to c/comicstrips@lemmy.world
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[a sign reads FEMINIST CONFERENCE next to a closed door, a blue character shrugs and says…]
I don't care

[next to the same door, the sign now says RESTRICTED FEMINIST CONFERENCE WOMEN ONLY, there are now four blue characters desperately banging on the door, one is reduced to tears on the floor, they are shouting]
DISCRIMINATION
SO UNFAIR!!!!
LET US IINN!!
MISANDRY

https://thebad.website/comic/until_it_affects_me

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[+] -22 points 6 months ago* (22 children)

tbf that sub's rules are a joke.

1 Women only

3 Don’t hate on groups, hatefilled talk about groups is not allowed. Ever.

But the sub does a hell of a lot of man bashing behind the ridiculous fig leaf of 'not all men'.

I block it.

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  • [–] 28 points 6 months ago* (21 children)

    Tell me you haven't looked at a community without telling me you haven't seen it.

    The top post of this week is about chocolate.

    The top post of this month is called "real men cry" and it's about how men should be allowed to be emotionally vulnerable.

    Funny enough, the top post of the last three months is a screenshot of:

    "I see so many men saying feminism is bad. Please tell me which of my rights I don't deserve as a woman. I'm curious."

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  • [+] -12 points 6 months ago* (1 child)

    "I see so many men saying feminism is bad. Please tell me which of my rights I don't deserve as a woman. I'm curious."

    If they were genuinely curious and wanted to know an answer to that question, then why would they post it in a community where men couldn't respond? That seems disingenuous.

    Why not go to 4chan or xitter and ask the men there why they don't like feminism? Cause I assume that's where they're seeing all these "men saying feminism is bad."

    But generalizing it as all or most men doing this and then posting it somewhere only women can comment, just seems like they're looking for a circlejerk/echo chamber where everyone will reaffirm their biases/assumptions.

    Let's also not pretend that every self-proclaimed "feminist" is solely concerned with her own rights. Lots of people on the internet call themselves feminists without really understanding a thing about feminism. You could more accurately call them "pseudo-feminists." The "man-hating feminist" stereotype comes from somewhere, and the error is in calling them "feminists," not in saying that they hate men.

    If they're reinforcing toxic masculinity culture, and instead of dismantling systems of oppression they make it their goal to participate in those structures as the oppressor, then they're not feminists. But a lot of women do this while calling themselves feminists.

    So I think a lot of the hate and criticism directed towards "feminism" is really directed towards pseudo-feminism, and people don't understand the difference because how likely is someone to read bell hooks or carol gilligan when it seems like all the so-called "feminists" on social media are repeating stuff like "gatekeep, gaslight, girlboss" (which is literally just women participating in patriarchy, not dismantling it).

    I mean if you don't want people confusing feminism with pseudo-feminism, that's fine and understandable. But you can't really pretend all of the criticism directed at pseudo-feminism under the guise of feminism is exclusively geared towards removing women's rights. By understanding the problem, you can begin to address it. So police your own, and call people out when they're promoting pseudo-feminism and calling it "feminism."

    A good indicator, is that if someone is telling men that their feelings don't matter, then they're not really a feminist.

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  • [–] 16 points 6 months ago

    If they were genuinely curious and wanted to know an answer to that question, then why would they post it in a community where men couldn’t respond? That seems disingenuous.

    It was a screenshot of a social media post.

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  • [+] -15 points 6 months ago (18 children)

    Well, I haven't looked at it for a while.

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  • [–] 26 points 6 months ago (10 children)

    I've been there since it started.

    Tell me, are the evil man-hating feminists in the room right now?

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  • [+] -12 points 6 months ago (7 children)

    Also, have you ever heard of the idea of subjectivity? That there may be no objective truth and that people can see and interpret the same acts in different ways?

    Just a thought.

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago (6 children)

    No. I'm new to words and concepts, please mansplain it to me.

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  • [+] -10 points 6 months ago* (5 children)

    So what you're saying is that you're not a troll?

    You're doing a brilliant job of selling the community.

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  • [–] 12 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    Why would I try to sell it to someone who obviously doesn't belong there?

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  • [–] -1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (3 children)

    That is for us to enforce. Please follow rule 1, if they are a problem, we will deal with it okay? Just hit that report button.

    Edit: I took that wrong.

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    I am being friendly, civil, and engaging in appropriate banter for the situation. I'm referring to whether or not they belong in a different community they both dislike and have blocked.

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  • [+] 5 points 6 months ago (7 children)
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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    You attempting to hold me to a moral code after literally spending a thread shitting on a woman's comm is bloody hilarious.

    I'm not frightened of "getting into trouble " for speaking out because i'm not five years old.

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