Huh? I said something mean? See, this is what I am talking about. You cannot give me a hard concrete fact, but you feel like I am attacking you. Type A. Neat and easy.
And I don’t need anyone to reply trying to explain it to me.
I usually operate under the following premise:
- "You don't get to tell me what I can say, because you of course wouldn't let me tell you what you say."
- "You don't get to tell me your feelings are my responsibility, because you don't care how treating me like that makes me feel."
Usually I see people not being consistent in applying the rules they hold others to themselves.
Any emotion or tone you are hearing is called Projection. I'm generally don't let others control my emotions anymore after I stopped naively assuming good faith as a default. Now I assume neutral is the default.