Would you ever straight up say to your son, ‘You are a disappointment’?

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[–] 27 points 7 months ago (10 children)

No, but I would say something like "I am very dissapointed in you for doing X". A kid can't change who they "are", but they can change what they "do".

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  • [+] -10 points 7 months ago* (8 children)

    Those are the same things. You are what you do.

    If you don't want to be X, than don't do X.

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  • [–] -1 points 7 months ago* (5 children)

    we're talking about people dude. we are not talking about scientific principles.

    people claim want to be healthy and then engage in unhealthy behaviors. they are unhealthy. what they do is what defines them, not what they desire to be.

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  • [–] 2 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    Yes we are talking about people. People can be held accountable for their actions and people can change their ways if they make mistakes. You're saying that people cannot change. If they bought a tesla, they're nazis, so fuck them.

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  • [–] -1 points 7 months ago* (3 children)

    I'm not saying any of that. But please keep telling me more about myself. Clearly you know everything..

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (2 children)

    That's the point though. I'm not telling you anything about yourself. I'm telling you about what you're saying. I'm not assuming anything about who you are or aren't.

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