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[–] 18 points 8 months ago (27 children)

So... I see a soap dispenser, a really fat rabbit, a weird vaccuum cleaner and a couple of silly putty figurines.

What am I supposed to be looking at?

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  • [–] 30 points 8 months ago (19 children)
  • [–] 16 points 8 months ago* (18 children)

    Fun fact: if you have a vagina you can do a maneuver called "vaginal splinting!" If you're constipated you can just stick a finger up your vagina (I find using my thumb to be the easiest), and you press on the back wall. You can literally just squeeze the shit out like it's a tube of toothpaste!

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  • [–] 16 points 8 months ago (3 children)

    i cant tell whether this knowledge makes my dysphoria better or worse

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  • [–] 8 points 8 months ago* (2 children)

    I like to look on the bright side when I can. A penis seems better in many ways and It's very possible I would have been happier to be born with one naturally (stand to pee when hiking, less random goop, easier to top), but I do also have to remind myself that the vagina has at least a few upsides (splinting, easier to bottom). Many people also like the feature where you get a little copy of yourself but personally I had that patched out.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (1 child)

    Less random goop...? ah, periods?

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago*

    No since my IUD I don't do that (that's a coinflip though, for many afabs it actually gets worse). No sometimes it just decides to secrete a bunch of goop for a day. It's largely colorless and if you've got a good microflora it doesn't smell offensive for a day or so (like sweat but thicker and slimier) but you do have to deal with it eventually. It's basically the female equivalent of a random boner. It's more likely if you're aroused but sometimes it's just your body making sure it all still works, especially overnight.

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  • [–] 2 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    returning to this, out of cursed curiosity, how does it actually feel doing that splinting? i can't imagine it's comfy.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (1 child)

    It's not uncomfy. I find most pressure on that area is largely interpreted by my senses through a strong contextual filter and I perceive the context as neutral-beneficial so it doesn't really bother me.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago

    that surprises me, interesting. thank you for the explanation!

    i suppose it's like if you gently push your tongue onto a side of the cheek, and then push on that cheek with your finger. at least, that's the closest analogy my mind can make... longing for the surgery, honestly.

    still, surprising that there would be a counterindication against doing that if you have a new vagina, even if it healed a long time ago. >:(

    since you talked about feeling like the other parts have their kind of benefits - i wonder if other people also sometimes wonder what it feels like to have the opposite part (beside the dysphoria). do you have that too?

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  • [–] 2 points 7 months ago* (8 children)

    this is either cursed or incredibly handy

    once i've had my surgery i might try this out (after it's all healed and well of course!)

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (7 children)

    Oh that's actually the main contraindication. Even healed scar tissue is basically always slightly weaker than normal skin (it'll even reopen years later if you suddenly have a severe vitamin c deficiency) and in this case could cause a fistula.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (6 children)

    Ugh, cis privilege strikes again! /j

    (I know, it's not per se a privilege, but damn, there goes my chance to do a funny :( )

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago* (5 children)

    I mean it is but it's also a privilege (perk is maybe a better term contextually) that gets lost by women who have had to have some kind of significant repair. I would think the main risk factor there is childbirth so it's likely they outnumber you demographically. You also can ask your surgeon, there's a possibility that what you're specifically having done is less risky or has become more robust since I last read up on this.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (4 children)

    I'm blanking a bit on this. Wdym, they outnumber me demographically? I mean yes, there are more people w/ a vagina who gave birth than trans women w/ a vagina, but what relevance does that have in this regard? That there's more research on the former than on the latter?

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago* (3 children)

    Not a cis privilege. It's a "women who haven't had vaginal surgery" privilege, of which trans women are likely a small portion.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (2 children)

    Ahh, fair point. I intend on getting a self-lubricating vagina and an orchiectomy (necessary too if uterus transplants were to be opened up to trans gals too!), not sure if that would change anything. Maybe there are more advanced methods nowadays.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago* (1 child)

    I keep telling Penn state they can have mine but I think they've put the program on hold until the US gets a fucking grip on the whole abortion thing. Fertility treatments as a whole can result in some seriously high risk pregnancies and idt any of the doctors involved want to get stuck caring for a woman they doomed by helping get pregnant with a pregnancy that's now going to kill her and there's nothing more they can do about it.

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago*

    Well, I don't know how to read that comment - but I don't care what one thinks these doctors would think - I care that we combat fascism. I want abortion to be accessible for everyone and for me as a trans woman to be able to actually get pregnant, thanks. My body, my own decision.

    Why can people be antivaxxers and die due to not vaccinating, but I cannot get pregnant and carry with a safe, extant protocol? It's outrageously unfair, and should be the other way around.

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  • [–] [S] 11 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (6 children)

    They're all memes. Jar-Jar Binks, amogus, a toothpaste shitting out the paste, and Robert Downey Jr. meme on the top row. Big chungus, Peter Griffin, the only one I don't recognize, and trollface on the bottom.

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  • [–] 3 points 8 months ago (4 children)

    The only one I got was jar jar

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  • [–] 4 points 8 months ago (3 children)

    What's worse is the implication that Jar-jar was good character design.

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