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[–] 45 points 10 months ago (6 children)

For decades they would show that the divorce rates in cultures with arranged marriages was much lower. I recall this from some anthropology classes in college.

Not sure if that’s better though. There was probably enormous family pressure not to divorce (or other consequences) so people would live in abusive or otherwise unhealthy relationships. That’s just my guess though.

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  • [–] 25 points 10 months ago (2 children)

    Yeah, I can tell from experience. In India, the older folks almost have a taboo against divorce. It was getting better, but with the re-emergence of religious extremism, it's probably gonna get worse.

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  • [–] 9 points 10 months ago

    It's always interesting to see the people who advocate against divorce too. Divorce should be banned? What's your ex-wife's story? Oh you regularly screamed at her and abused her and treat her like a live in slave so she left? Sounds like you just didn't want her to be able to get away from your useless ass.

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  • [–] 7 points 10 months ago

    I don’t know about all cultures that practice arranged marriages, but I know that in Pakistan marriages are often arranged between cousins (of various degrees, including first cousins.)

    If that’s not “family pressure not to divorce,” I don’t know what is. You’d be pretty much stuck with your ex in your life forever anyway.

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  • [–] 6 points 10 months ago*

    We really don't have to go that far back in time for divorce to have been a nearly impossible prospect for women on this side of the world. Prior to the 70s women could not access credit without a male co-signer so there was essentially no concept of a woman owning a car or home independently. In the decades preceding that, women were put in asylums and medicated for disobeying their husbands with a diagnosis of hysteria. This is all within our parents or grandparents lifetimes.

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  • [–] 5 points 10 months ago*

    My parents are from China, arranged marriage, there was like a time where they used to argue a lot about stuff... financially related stuff... I overheard my mom threatening divorce, I mean, she was the aggressor to be clear, my mom made the most money in the household and she was just mad at my dad for, and I quote, "such a useless man", I mean this is mom that called me and my brother useless kids too...

    I remember feeling so scared about the threat of divorce, like I'd probably have to follow my mom purely for the better financial stability, but then I feel like my mom would've gotten even more abusive since without the stable household, and I felt an overwhelming sense of dread... I was a teen during that time...

    But luckily the divorce never happened... I'm assuming they stayed together for us, their kids.

    Honestly if me and my brother died, I bet their marriage is like instantly over.

    Children are like the main purpose of marriages in conservative households.

    I think most marriages in China falls apart because of alcoholism or gambling or cheating.

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