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Calm down bitch (lemmy.dbzer0.com)
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[–] 6 points 1 year ago* (4 children)

Some of us autists actually have very high "EQ", we just aren't always choosing to be as expressive or dramatic as some others seem to need.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Yes! Autism is partly social difficulty, but that is not the same as a lack of social/emotional perceptivity. The difficulty is mutual among all parties.

    I totally ’get’ what is going on in most social encounters, I just feel very little obligation to expend the energy to match the situation quite often.

    Lately, I have become more ‘demanding’ socially. It’s working fine, and my attitude has become ‘I will meet people halfway’ in terms of working to accommodate the group vibe.

    Quite often, others will sus out my wavelength too and it results in them doing more of their share of the ‘work’ of socializing. If not, well, I am better off learning that they won’t do their share.

    I have lately become utterly fine with who I am. I am the normal one, conform to me.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago*

    I think we need to culturally go back to roughly Daria as a metaphor for / example of autism.

    She can see through basically every social situation, almost always reads them with more accuracy and insight than everyone else, is analytical, witty, deadpan, detached... but still has and is capable of expressing emotions.

    Thats a high functioning autist to me, the difference to nowadays is... nobody really had a widely used (and often misused) pathologizing term for that in the 90s, and hadn't spent 20 yrs infantalizing such people as socially stunted, so Daria had actual self confidence and wasn't stigmatized.

    I had tons of friends growing up, they just thought I was quirky... nobody knew I was autistic till I figured it out in my 30s.

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