You didn't back up that claim with anything other than vibes, though. Further, politics isn't a tug-of-war, if people firmly disagree with communism, a communist explaining the communist viewpoint with (generally) a level-head isn't pushing them away, it's the communism, full-stop. The fact that the absolute number of comrades has risen due to my interactions means it's a net positive.

Secondly, I can define communism, it's a stateless, classless, moneyless society where production and distribution is collectivized and based on satisfying the needs of everyone.

Edit: to respond to your edit:

Communists have learned good party structure, how to democratize the economy, and the usefulness of implementing controlled market forces in underdeveloped countries as a means to rapidly increase the productive forces. China, for example, is massively improving quality of life year over year, and was one of the poorest countries on the planet only a century ago.

The basis of the state is class society. Once class is abolished through collectivized production, the oppressive elements of society that form the state, ie police, millitaries, etc erode. Administration will continue to exist, as will collective decision making organs, etc, but this is not what Marxists recognize as the state.

Marxists define states and governments as two separate things, you should look into this before you ask this question

Communists as a whole use the original meanings of the terms and not the modern ones.