Um, at most when a guy who says he's asexual advances I don't get mad, I feel disappointed (like everything he said was bs, which yeah, it was oh well). You sound like you need therapy/intervention, not a relationship right now. Like if a man said he wanted to beat me in the head with a piece of glass if I had made an advance on him, I'd like for him to stay the hell away from me too.

Very interesting. Thank you for sharing!

My perspective is something like: I love my wife so much that it drives me crazy when I can't make love to her for a long time for whatever reason. 😅🔥 The same passion is there as it was a decade ago. 🫣

When we met I had a pretty high libido.

My ace partner does not participate in anything, but I am afforded respect when taking care of myself.

Boiling over is a bit rough, but we are clear about acceptable outlets and boundaries. So the usual "make sure you communicate" part is important.

I think the important part is I really just love my partner so much that I tend not to notice the lack of sex.

S Tier

Strawberry rhubarb pie?

Please do not leave ovens unattended while in use.

I can't eat garlic, it upsets my stomach.

(I like garlic bread, too)

What's your libido like then? High, medium, low? What do you do when your needs are boiling over and need to be met? Do you kind of sneak away to a corner like a sick animal to take care of it, or are you allowed some "ceremony", semi-openly? Will your ace partner perhaps participate in some non-sexual way, even?

Sorry if I'm inquisitive, this is just very interesting to me as a high-libido person. 😅

My partner is ace. We get along great. It's a lot of effort but I would t have it any other way.

I love it, am ace

That's exactly what a Big Garlic employee would say!

Actually, no, I guess not. I suppose I believe you. For now.

Garlic bread is better than sex 😋

Interesting questions.

There isn't a poll feature for lemmy so....

However I can assure you Big garlic bread is not involved with this community. We promote homemade garlic bread as superior. Store bought is acceptable.

I wonder, do aces really love garlic bread so much, or it just a meme? Is there a correlation between being ace and liking garlic bread?

Is it just targeted ads designed by Big Garlic to sell more products?

I mean, sure, jerking off is okay (but oh how much more boring than to make love to your wife though), but for me, connecting physically is a big part of the relationship as well. I'm not sure I could handle no sexual intimacy, if I'm being completely honest. 😅

But you know what, I think it's so freaking awesome that it isn't a big deal for other people. Shout out to compatibility! 🫶😊

I’ve actually been in love with someone who is ace before, and I just feel like, for me emotional compatibility comes first. If there was never any sex, I know how to take care of my needs all on my own, but emotional compatibility is so much harder to find than sexual satisfaction.

That's pretty cool. How do you think you would handle the difference in sexuality if you were in a relationship with someone and you would like to have sex and she isn't interested in such activities? Just curious. 😊

If I wasn’t a woman, I would love him so much.

Only tangentially related, but I went to an Ashley Gavin show this past weekend on a first date with a woman who told me she’s questioning if she’s asexual or not (I am not ace myself), and our chemistry was off the charts and we’re going on a second date next week, and I just think that’s neat and aces are neat :3

This was exhilarating.

Poor Oscar! I felt his awkwardness at first, but I think it worked our well in the end, and he seemed to have fun as well.

I would absolutely go out drinking with him!

Looks like it's part of generally criminalising "LGBTQIA+ practices" so probably there's also some religious/conservatism aspects to it.

This is a big reason why I have a hard time trusting men. I was maybe 10 years old when my "best friend" decided he didn't want to speak to or spend time with me anymore because I didn't want to date him. And then it just kept happening...

Also dOn't HaVe KiDs iF you cAn'T aFfoRd tHem.

Sarcasm font is hard.

Niger's high infant mortality rate is comparable to levels recorded in neighboring countries. However, the child mortality rate (deaths among children between the ages of 1 and 4) is exceptionally high (274 per 1,000) due to generally poor health conditions and inadequate nutrition for most of the country's children. Niger's very high total fertility rate (6.89 children born per woman, which is the highest in the world), nonetheless, means that nearly half (49%) of the Nigerien population is under age 15. School attendance is low (34%), including 38% of males and 27% of females. Additional education occurs through Koranic schools.

— Demographics of Niger (Wikipedia)

Welp, sounds like an absolute shit hole to live in based only off of this quote... 😕