Its where you put things you don't want to look at, think about, or remember they exist.

I applied for an ADHD specific health care place. 1.5 year waiting list. Then They sent me a link to a multi page in take form described as asking for my full history that had to be done at one sitting, had to be accurate, and it would determine if they would take me or not. You couldn't look at any page without filling in the current one.

So I emailed them asking what the questions were because I might have to collect information or think about it in advance. I didn't get a response. Emailed again, nothing. Called, very difficult to explain my question to them.

Eventually I got an email that nobody had the list of questions so they couldn't tell me.

Gave up.

I hang newly washed clothes on hangers with the open end of the hook facing out. Lightly worn clothes go back with the hook facing the wall (the normal way most people put them in).

I also keep them slightly apart in case smells should migrate. Piling them up puts all the smalls together. Better to allow air to circulate.

I have a second lower rail that is only for clothes thatve been worn. They mostly get washed at the next laundry trip but dont get wrinkled sitting in the basket waiting. So no ironing.

And of course hooks on the door.

I have no reason to believe it is deliberate. If it is deliberate, it is very poorly executed because my reality is unscathed. I think it is a self defense mechanism about the other person's internal stuff than it is about controlling or abusing me. It isn't abusive, so much as very very annoying.

that is correct probly

I was trying to avoid writing 40 paragraphs long history of the relationship since the beginning. :)

I know. but by that time everybody already feels bad and it's my fault because I raised the initial disagreement which now never existed in the first place. So I just stirred up the whole situation out of nothing apparently.

Since the actual issue is resolved, but everything is still escalated, then we just transition to arguing about who said what. Which is tiresome and pointless. And I am accused of lying when I am not. I don't like that and it's very difficult for me to deescalate.

that's not what gaslighting means.

in this case we WERE disagreeing. but basically I was right so the other person changed their position. which is what I wanted, except then they immediately forget that they held the opposing position but we are still in an argument when that happens so it must be my fault for starting the argument over nothing.

I mean both of us have ADHD

We were arguing about personal matters that we are both involved in.

This just happens with this one person. I'm not like, delusional. Or such a big bully that people back down to placate me.

Get multiple toothbrushes and toothpastes.