Me and some friends have been using fluxer recently and it's been pretty good, streaming works like discord so you have to click into it. It's very similar to discord UI wise so it's been easy to get people to swap over, and it supports self hosting which has been nice. Only complaint is that it's missing the built in soundboard discord has but that's a pretty minor thing.
Played cdda years ago but could never figure it out and wasn't able to get much done, my instance on not using a tileset and just going with the askii graphics because "that's how it's supposed to look" likely didn't help. Been wanting to give it another shot for a while but never got around to it.
Have you tried the bright nights fork? Never played it personally but remembered it existed while writing this and took a look at it, and it seems like what you are looking for. If you have tried it, how is it?