i wrote this in a rush…

so i’m polyamorous. i’m 15 years old and a girl. i go by “jessica” on here, which obviously isn’t my real name but its what you can call me on this account. at a therapy group center, i met this other polyamorous dude “avery” (m16). at first, i was 13 and didn’t know he was polyamorous, so when we connected really fast and he mentioned his girlfriend all of a sudden, i was sad but gave up and just wanted to be his friend.

our therapist, “miss alex” (all fake names so they are in quotes) left as she was having a baby, then got another job or decided to be a stay-at-home mom, i forgot which. avery left the group a while before.

one time, i was in the waiting room and i saw him with a group of other teens, but i decided not to say anything. im faceblind and did not know whether that was him or not.

well, some time after, i was sitting pretty close but not right next to him, and i could clearly see that was the avery i knew. he recognized me and we finally exchanged social media usernames.

we became close. here’s the thing: i found out he was polyamorous but he had a boyfriend, “david” (m16). he asked me if i wanted to, and i said yeah, and he said he would check in with david and finally tell him he was polyamorous. david supported him but wanted to be monogamous.

well, a month or two ago, they broke up. about 3 weeks ago, avery confessed to me finally when i joined his group again, and i realized i was so sad about him and david being together but happy for them because i was jealous and wanted to be the one for him.

now we are together. sometimes, he’s busy with other things or just reads the messages and doesn’t respond. sometimes, i get scared i text too much since i’ve been insulted and had mean things said to me from that, but the rational part of my brain says i’ve known him for like 3 years and for over a year fully, and he would not do that. he’s always been respectful and loving even as a friend.

but i have an anxious attachment i’m trying to work on. my attachments are different depending on the partner and i for some reason always am more “secure” around girls and more “anxious” around boys, though i used to be avoidant.

i wrote this in a rush...

so i'm polyamorous. i'm 15 years old and a girl. i go by "jessica" on here, which obviously isn't my real name but its what you can call me on this account. at a therapy group center, i met this other polyamorous dude "avery" (m16). at first, i was 13 and didn't know he was polyamorous, so when we connected really fast and he mentioned his girlfriend all of a sudden, i was sad but gave up and just wanted to be his friend.

our therapist, "miss alex" (all fake names so they are in quotes) left as she was having a baby, then got another job or decided to be a stay-at-home mom, i forgot which. avery left the group a while before.

one time, i was in the waiting room and i saw him with a group of other teens, but i decided not to say anything. im faceblind and did not know whether that was him or not.

well, some time after, i was sitting pretty close but not right next to him, and i could clearly see that was the avery i knew. he recognized me and we finally exchanged social media usernames.

we became close. here's the thing: i found out he was polyamorous but he had a boyfriend, "david" (m16). he asked me if i wanted to, and i said yeah, and he said he would check in with david and finally tell him he was polyamorous. david supported him but wanted to be monogamous.

well, a month or two ago, they broke up. about 3 weeks ago, avery confessed to me finally when i joined his group again, and i realized i was so sad about him and david being together but happy for them because i was jealous and wanted to be the one for him.

now we are together. sometimes, he's busy with other things or just reads the messages and doesn't respond. sometimes, i get scared i text too much since i've been insulted and had mean things said to me from that, but the rational part of my brain says i've known him for like 3 years and for over a year fully, and he would not do that. he's always been respectful and loving even as a friend.

but i have an anxious attachment i'm trying to work on. my attachments are different depending on the partner and i for some reason always am more "secure" around girls and more "anxious" around boys, though i used to be avoidant.

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We who get periods all experience them in different ways. For me, I get a bit more irritated and I eat a lot more and also become either a lot more happy or a lot more depressed during PMS.

My sister (13), she gets more irritated and rude, sarcastic, grumpy, and mean. She blames everything she does on her period and insults others and treats them rudely, and then sulks when she gets told not to be that way.

How can I help my sister on her period while also helping others and helping her be less rude?

So I (F15) have liked this guy (M16) since a little bit after we first started to become friends almost 3 years ago. I was 13 and Avery, my BF, was 14. Well, I thought all chances of us being a thing beyond friends were gone when he mentioned his girlfriend at the time, so my feelings went away. We met at therapy group and the group leader left, and so did he, so that helped my feelings to go away. I thought they went away forever though.

Well, one day, I found him playing a video game on his phone when we were both waiting for our therapists to come. He instantly recognized me and I got his contact information. We became close, and he started developing feelings for me. Well, afterwards, I found out that he had a boyfriend now and asked his boyfriend if it was okay to date me, since I liked him too, but they turned out to be in a monogamous relationship, so I moved on from him and decided to stay friends with him.

However, I always saw him as someone I could trust, as I even did an activity with the therapist I have, saying something like "Trusted people I can talk to: Avery, [name], [other name]" etc.

I am downright obsessed with the guy and I don't wanna be like this. I mean, we finally started dating for real, he's not with his boyfriend anymore, and he loves me. I've been to his house a few times and he's really fun to hang out with. Also, I check my messages every few minutes hoping he texted, he's constantly on my mind, and my feelings for him even come out throughout the day as me trying to be serious and focus, then self-dislike, then frustration.

And I get really depressed and stuff when he talks to other people. It's not so much that he's talking to someone else, that he's focusing his attention on someone who isn't me, but moreso that he leaves me on seen/opened constantly and doesn't reply. If he does reply, he gives pretty dry responses but that's the kind of guy he is. He's always been a bit of a dry texter and has always been less of a texter and more of someone who will just acknowledge your texts.

Deep down, I know he loves me. I just don't know how to deal with my emotions towards him, but I'm trying. I'm lowkey worried I'm becoming like one of those anime "yandere" type characters.

So this will be my first time getting drunk drunk, and my friend is a year older than me and has done it several times before. I could have him watch me, but there may be a chance that he'd be high/drunk too, so what are some things to watch out for and consider during my first time getting drunk if I'm able to go to his house?

So my (formerly agnostic, now atheist) friend (Christian) is very Christian and obsesses over it. Her only friends besides me are Christian and all they talk about is the Bible, Jesus, and God. She also tries to "convert" people. She tried to convert me by asking what my relationship with God as like, if I read the Bible, etc. and tried to get me to apologize to God for being agnostic and not Christian "for Christianity is the only true religion and He will come soon".

She constantly talks about it like I said and constantly tries to get me to convert every time we talk.

What should I do? On my male days, I get misgendered intentionally and called "my girl/daughter" by my transphobic dad who says "people think boys can be girls and I hate it!!"

He also keeps calling my male friend a "she" when he doesn't even look like a girl, he looks pretty gender-neutral/masc and just may look feminine to him because he's pre-T (he's only 16).

I thought of one thing, and last time he said I couldn't hang out with him because he was trans but didn't have a face to match up with the name or me just saying "a friend" so he may let me hang out with him, thinking he's "a girl" and just a tomboy so I can finally sleep over.

Cecilia (my sister) won’t talk to Uncle for a REASON and I don’t wanna get into why with him but he just sucks

My uncle is very right-wing, racist, and a bit transphobic, as he thinks I'll always be a girl. Here's the thing: he apparently beat his ex-wife, causing her to leave his house and eventually divorce him. Since then, for about 13 years, he complains about not having her as a wife despite already having a new wife, can't move on, and BLAMES HIS EX-WIFE for not wanting him anymore and thinks women are inherently evil.

He also thinks women are meant to "obey" him and kinda uses his current wife for her money. And beat her too...

So "Elizabeth" from before, I guess I will call by their more "neutral" name "Alex" since they use any pronouns but prefer neutral with a slight preference on she.

So, Alex can be a bit freaky but I honestly don't mind because they're really cute and not like this all the time, in fact, they're mainly really friendly most of the time! They were thinking about dating me according to one of their friends but I was thinking about video calling first because we're online friends, we may not be able to meet IRL, and because I wanna see if they're legit obviously first.

After I call them, though, I'm really nervous. How should I go about asking them out?

In the language I’m learning: Łał - polish

This is a genuine question. I've always had an interest in learning languages and I have a list I want to learn. I am already somewhat decent in Spanish, so I'm picking up that, practicing my Portuguese, going to learn French and Italian, maybe German, learning Polish, and possibly Russian.

I already canceled the idea of living in Russia due to obvious reasons, but will I have any need to learn the language? Will it be useful? Will that be offensive? Many people HATE Russia and the language.