[–] 1 point 4 days ago

Most content from .ml users likely isn't even political, so people certainly overstate how prevalent radicalism is. Lemmy is part of the fediverse and isn't a reserved political space any more than any other part of it. But you are much more likely to see controversial positions from the "tankie triad" compared to other instances and other social media. It is one of the few big instances where you can find popular support for Russia over Ukraine or denying the Uyghur genocide for example.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 week ago

    I don't think a man suggesting to split or fully cover a bill has much to do with how the date is going. Maybe for a first date he'd be more sensitive if he gets the vibe that he's being used for a free meal, but that pessimism should be gone as soon as his date offers to split or they alternate who pays like you have been doing. Most probably just have an expectation to always cover or always split/alternate.

    I know many women will expect to not even touch their card for at least the first five dates.

    I'm surprised by this. I know the idea of the man paying is common, but I thought in modern times it was usually expected the woman would at least offer to pay for part of it after the first date. The man assuming that he will pay for everything could easily come off as patronizing or transactional otherwise.

    Should I stop offering in general, and should I keep seeing this particular guy if I like him otherwise? I should note that I'm also between jobs with one lined up, so is this the main reason they're hesitant? I'd really appreciate any help or advice!

    I expect most men would appreciate the offer, whether or not they take it. It shows you are considerate of your potential partner's needs and not just trying to take advantage of them. If it gets expensive while you are between jobs, you can suggest going for cheaper dates.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 week ago

    I was about to mention this too. The idea is that you invest it and only take out enough to cover your expenses. People typically use 4% as an estimate for average annual growth in the stock market, so 25x your annual expenses would theoretically allow you to maintain it indefinitely.

    For reference, $40,000 annual expenses (including taxes) would require $1,000,000 invested, so that's an easy reference point.

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