I've tried many times to switch to Lemmy but I bounce off every time because I get so much hate. I've never received as many death threats as I have on Lemmy. I'm a Dane who sits somewhere in the middle of our political spectrum, so I'm left on some stuff and right on some stuff. If I even dare state a fairly moderate-right opinion on Lemmy, the vitriol is unreal. This place is worse than some of the worst political subreddits on Reddit, and I cannot escape it by finding moderate communities. They're all somewhere on the far left. The only thing I can decide is if I prefer libertarian style left wing or authoritarian style left wing. Even the "libertarian" style left wing people hate free speech, so I'm not even sure that's a real choice anymore.

I've come to the conclusion that the users who remain like it this way, so there's not much point arguing over it. They repel normal people and if they're honest with themselves, they don't want normal people here. They want validation for their extreme views.

What is this “cautiosness” she’s talking about? There has literally never been a case of a transgender person doing anything inappropriate in a public toilet…

You probably haven't seen the examples because of your social media algorithm.

#Confirmed Convictions

• 2016 | Idaho, USA | Shauna Smith - Secretly filmed an 18-year-old woman changing clothes in a Target fitting room in Ammon. Pleaded guilty to felony video voyeurism and was sentenced to five years in prison in January 2017, with two years fixed. Source: https://www.eastidahonews.com/2017/01/target-voyeur-sentenced-victim-says-felt-emotional-mutilation-following-incident/

• February 2018 | Dunfermline, Scotland | Katie Dolatowski - Secretly filmed a 12-year-old girl using the women's toilets at Asda by holding a mobile phone over the cubicle partition. Admitted the offence and received a community sentence. Source: https://www.thecourier.co.uk/fp/news/courts/848931/fife-sex-offender-back-in-court-after-breaching-community-payback-order/

• March 2018 | Kirkcaldy, Scotland | Katie Dolatowski - Sexually assaulted a 10-year-old girl in the toilets at Morrisons, forcing her into a cubicle and demanding that she remove her trousers. Admitted the offence and received a community payback order. Source: https://www.thecourier.co.uk/fp/news/fife/832849/warning-as-transgender-sex-offender-placed-in-womens-hostel/

• 2014 (conviction and sentencing in 2022) | California, USA | Hannah Tubbs - Sexually assaulted a 10-year-old girl in the women's toilet at a Denny's restaurant in Palmdale. Pleaded guilty and received a two-year juvenile-facility sentence. Source: https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2022-01-27/26-year-old-who-sexually-assaulted-girl-while-underage-will-serve-two-year-term-in-juvenile-facility-judge-rules

• January-November 2023 (convicted 2025) | Middlesbrough and Darlington, England | Chleo Sunter - Secretly recorded men using toilets at Aldi, a shopping centre and Darlington railway station. Police found 790 photographs and 15 videos of men in cubicles and at urinals. Admitted two voyeurism offences and six breaches of a sexual harm prevention order. Sentenced to 26 months in prison. Source: https://inview.org.uk/news/181768-cex_offender_jailed_for_secretly_filming_men_in_aldi_and_public_toilets/181768-sex_offender_jailed_for_secretly_filming_men_in_aldi_and_public_toilets

• 2024 | Arlington, Virginia, USA | Richard Cox - A transgender woman and registered sex offender accused of inappropriate exposure in women's locker rooms at school swimming pools and recreation centres. In October 2026, convicted of 12 felony counts of prohibited sex-offender loitering near children. Five indecent-exposure and five indecent-liberties charges remain pending, with trial scheduled for January 2027. Official source: https://www.arlingtonva.us/Government/Departments/Courts/Commonwealth-Attorney/Commonwealth%E2%80%99s-Attorney-News/Richard-K.-Cox-Guilty-of-12-Felony-Charges-of-Loitering-After-Conviction-of-an-Offense-Prohibiting-Proximity-to-Children

• March 2022 (convicted December 2022) | Birmingham, England | Ian Bullock - Sexually assaulted a woman while she washed her hands in the women's toilets at Birmingham New Street station. When questioned, claimed to identify as female. Convicted and sentenced to 16 months in prison in February 2023. Source: https://www.itv.com/news/central/2023-02-21/man-who-said-he-identified-as-female-sexually-assaulted-woman-in-station-toilet

• 2022-2023 (sentenced March 2024) | Durham, England | Kurtis Mawson - Secretly filmed women using public toilets in Durham, alongside other sexual offences. When confronted by police in the women's toilets, claimed to identify as female. Pleaded guilty and received a 25-month prison sentence. Source: https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/jk-rowling-says-happened-again-134644605.html

• June 2025 | Durham, England | Kurtis Mawson - Recorded women in female public toilets again while on licence for earlier offences. Admitted further voyeurism and breaching a sexual harm prevention order in July 2025. Source: https://www.thenorthernecho.co.uk/news/25333298.willington-man-kurtis-mawson-guilty-repeated-voyeurism/

#Documented Incidents but Identity / Public Record Withheld

• February 2019 | Durant, Oklahoma, USA | Alicia Gray / Sean Ojeda - A transgender woman accused of attempting to touch a 16-year-old boy's genitals in the men's toilet at Walmart. Police arrested the suspect for alleged sexual battery. I could not verify the final court outcome. Source: https://www.kxii.com/content/news/Father-of-teen-molested-at-Durant-Wal-505807091.html

• March 2025 | Loudoun County, Virginia, USA | Unnamed transgender student - A transgender male student recorded audio and video of two boys in a school changing room. The US Department of Education subsequently found that the school district had mishandled the boys' complaints and treated the parties unequally. Recording in changing rooms was prohibited by school policy. No criminal conviction against the student has been established. Official source: https://www.ed.gov/about/news/press-release/us-department-of-education-concludes-loudoun-county-public-schools-violated-title-ix-and-retaliated-against-male-students-amid-sexual-harassment

• May 2025 (publicised January 2026) | California, USA | Unnamed individual - A woman alleged that someone identifying as transgender was masturbating in a women's Planet Fitness changing-room toilet cubicle. Video of a confrontation circulated online. The accused denied masturbating. The allegation was not established by a court, and no criminal outcome was verified. Source: https://www.outkick.com/analysis/woman-accuses-trans-identifying-male-masturbating-planet-fitness-womens-locker-room

Note that these are just the really public cases. They are far from exhaustive, and obviously exclude all crimes which were not reported or investigated.

As a parent, reading stuff like this is almost unbearable. The thought of someone intentionally harming a child is so incredibly heartbreaking. We sometimes have a tendency to look back on history and thing, "man, that was crazy!" We forget that there are places today where children are treated this way. I'm so thankful to be living in a nation, society, and culture where this isn't tolerated.

I’ve been happily using Unbound DNS on OPNsense. Zero DNS censorship.

I think this is a great illustration that life is complicated. They obviously still love each other enough to stay together. There is so much more to a relationship than sex. If he's getting his needs met and they can make it work, I won't judge. It's disappointing she won't get help but sometimes people need to hit rock bottom before they're ready to accept help.

Nvidia booked $63.7bn operating income last quarter, and the equity gains you’re thinking of are a separate $7.8bn line underneath that. AWS made $17.8bn operating profit and Google Cloud $11.1bn in the same period, off customers who actually paid.

There's nothing illegal or corrupt about Anthropic purchasing compute from SpaceX.

If this is a bubble, it’s not a very impressive one. The dot-com bubble was built on companies with little or no revenue, and the Nasdaq eventually fell about 78%. Today the S&P 500 trades on a forward P/E of 18.7, below its 5 and 10 year averages, with Q3 earnings growth at 29.5%. Nvidia, for example, arguably the epicenter of the bubble, just made $63.7bn of operating income on $96.2bn of revenue at a 75% gross margin. So this bubble is built on organic growth and insane real demand. Google Cloud grew 103%. Azure 48%. AWS 39%.

Also, neither OpenAI nor Anthropic are publicly traded. They can implode and it'll leave barely a ripple in the stock market.

I read some research showing the average local voter was amenable to a $10k bribe. I think locals should be negotiating for electricity price caps. E.g. 10c/kWh. Anything over that is paid for by the data center owner. This puts money into the pockets of all locals over a long period of time, and insulated them from the demand surge causing price spikes all over the US.

There's an element of that, or at least there was an element of that. Right now supply chain analysis shows they're ramping up literally as fast as physically possible. It's so bad that even basic things like valves, piping, and ceramic components are back-ordered for months or years. A laser tool maker is quoted as waiting more than 40 months for parts now. This is putting supply strain on tens of thousands of components which we never imagined we would suddenly require in much larger quantities.

I think the good news is that on the other side of this, we'll have unprecedented production capacity for RAM and storage. If AI continues to gobble up capacity, it'll mean abundant and cheap inference. If it doesn't, it'll mean abundant and cheap RAM and storage.

Gas costs an average of $5.87/gal in California vs $3.37 in North Carolina. Electricity costs 29.75c/kWh in California vs Nevada which is 12.72c. LNG in California costs $21.25 per Mcf vs Utah at $12.78.

It's true that they can't pass any national laws, but states have immense power within their borders to make the lives of their constituents better. They can and should demonstrate competence in their state if they want to convince voters to give them more national power. This is their chance.

So many different opinions, so I might as well weigh in.

I'm a classic story of starting with a 1TB external HDD to now my 160TB server. I just kept going and didn't know when to stop. It's very affordable to make sure your server is extensible. Start with a decent case with lots of HDD bays. A Fractal R6 is excellent. A modern Intel CPU does great transcoding for x265 and AV1. No GPU required. Then you just need 8-16GB RAM (more is better, but it's expensive right now). Maybe 256GB SSD (more is better, but it's expensive right now). Get one HDD right now. Whatever has a good price/TB. They're also expensive right now.

The more important question is the OS. I actually prefer Windows. It's free (if you look on Google how to activate it for free). If you get more than one HDD you should consider DrivePool to pool your drives. Works great and cheap one time cost. If it's data you can just download again you don't need to worry about backup. RAID is a good intermediary step, and for that SnapRAID works really well. You'll need one HDD for parity, and a good rule of thumb is no more than 5-6 HDDs per parity. RAID means that if a disk dies, you can restore the data. Much cheaper than cloud storage.

On the one hand, they're not really competing on features right now.

On the other hand, I have heard (more times than I can count or remember), that Steam users will never use another launcher for any reason ever.

So they kind of have a point. If they invest hundreds of millions or billions into features, would Steam users really use the Epic launcher? I don't think so.