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[–] 2 points 4 days ago (1 child)

Hey... I'm much younger than you but I've gone through something similar... Reaaaally bad ex that never ever followed through and took to blaming me for everything. I never wished harm on her... Never even blamed her for anything until sometime after she broke up with me over my "pushing" (trying to get her to stop being an ass to others and especially myself... In most cases... In my case). I get it. All I can really say... Is that shit sucks girl, and it'll take some time to feel okay. Be careful not to rebound, but also make sure you have someone you love and trust to be there for you emotionally and get you through it. You can make it through this, I'm sure... You've clearly made it through a lot already. <3

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    [–] 9 points 5 days ago*

    Hey! You're very very pretty, I honestly doubt it has to do anything with your appearance girl. But I get it. It was especially bad for me until I started asking what the main things that trigger certain cis friends who are supportive into a gut reaction are.

    For me it was how my hair was to start, along with a 5 o clock shadow I'm cursed with but slowly gets better with laser. Those two things were the biggest things... Next to my struggle to come to a new name.

    My deadname is one that, while technically now being used for little girls, is not traditionally used for women and most people do not recognize (well... register may be a better term here) it in their head as such. Changing that has helped lots, even though I changed it to something more feminine-leaning neutral as I was identifying NB at the time.

    Nowadays, along with HRT slowly but surely doing its work, the big tell I'm told about is my voice.

    Personally I think I also struggle with a box-y frame skeletally... But I'm usually assured on that. Tbh I think there's a chance I just wanna be cute and don't know if I'll ever be able to achieve that because of this...

    I hope this helps you at all girl <3

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    How to deal with chronic 5-o-clock Shadow? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
     

    Hey... transfem and suffering from facial hair I can't seem to be able to get rid of much. As you can imagine, it causes much suffering. Currently going through laser hair removal and even after my 3rd session it doesn't seem to be doing much if anything. White with black hair. I'm horrified laser may not be working well, have no idea how long it should really take to start noticing in the first place, and well... Was hoping for some help. I've always been bad at shaving (as much as I do regularly... 1-2 times per day)... Hoping I can at least get temporary solace in clearing my face in ways different than I already do (electric razor, Baun brand, with no shaving cream or anything... Attempts to use safety razors like I use for full-body shaving have been extremely futile and I feel like I'm gonna cut myself each time I try so I haven't tried much...) If anyone has advice... Please.

    As an aside, tips for quicker full-body shaving than safety razors and soap weekly (or more if I truly want to feel fine... But that's too much given it takes 2 hours this way and idk what to do) also appreciates.

    Thanks to anyone able to offer advice...

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