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[–] 112 points 6 months ago (13 children)

I once dated a goth girl who wanted me to tie her up. I took it seriously and started learning how to do it. Researched the correct type of rope to use, the dangers associated, etc. Went to the hardware store. Built a really simple practice rig so I could practice some knots safely. Learned about which knots were safe where on the body without causing nerve damage, and how to recognize the early signs of nerve damage before the damage becomes permanent. I even got special scissors for cutting rope in an emergency.

I informed her of my progress and that we would be able to indulge in her fantasy soon. (note: I was recently diagnosed with autism) She told me I was being to extra about it and that she didn't want to do it anymore. I asked her if she'd rather lose feeling in her fingers. Needless to say that was a huge waste of time and effort. Moral of the story is either a) don't put in energy to these things without knowing it will be matched, or b) when someone says they want to be tied up just buy a roll of sex tape and safety scissors.

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  • [–] 78 points 6 months ago

    There are a lot of people with impossible fantasies. They want their partner to be spontaneous but only when it’s convenient, they want a sense of danger but no real danger (but they want to believe there is real danger). It leads people to do stupid stuff like under negotiating kink scenes in the interest of “realism”. People get hurt.

    You did the right thing. Some goth girl will be lucky to have you tie her up someday.

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  • [–] 39 points 6 months ago*

    Forget her, you did good and now know all the important stuff if someone else has a similar ask.

    But fr sex tape is much easier, shibari's a skill that takes practice and knowledge to avoid injury, particularly if you want to start getting fancy.

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  • [–] 15 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    noooo that's cute please continue and find a happier goth girl

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    I tried it with my next girlfriend after her. It was fun but I realized I'm not really into kink. I'm not even really that into sex. To me, learning all that was an act of love. I'm currently prioritizing other things now. I'm going to live life for myself now, going back to college in hopes of becoming an engineer. I'll probably forget relationships unless I'm lucky enough to meet someone very special.

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Ooh! Ooh! Competence is sexy, you should tie me up instead

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    I wish I was the type of guy to take someone up on that but I've made the decision that I won't engage in any sexual activity again without love first. And I've sworn off dating for the foreseeable future so I'm destined to regress all the way back to being a kissless hugless handholdless eyecontactless virgin

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    Oof. I was mostly joking and just trying to boost your confidence (aka being honest but not actually expecting it to go anywhere), but I appreciate the vulnerability ❤️🫂

    I understand not wanting sex without love. I couldn't imagine paying that kind of attention to someone's needs, learning what they like and don't like, earnestly doing your best to meet those needs, and showing the most vulnerable parts of yourself to someone you don't care about. The difference for me is that unlike most people I happen to be the type to love people very easily. I love everyone I'm with, even if we're only in each other's lives for one night.

    (Or perhaps you meant no sex without commitment - in which case I'm the exact opposite and I never ask for or expect commitment from anyone 😅)

    But in any case, I wish you well with your period of not dating, and I hope it's exactly what you need to find yourself and understand your own needs and boundaries. It's a rough thing to do, but it's so important!

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  • [–] 44 points 6 months ago

    When both of you want to play factorio but there is only one pc

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  • [–] 18 points 6 months ago

    The Factory must grow. At any cost.

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  • [–] 16 points 6 months ago

    I am convinced that game is catnip for engineers

    It has everything needed to scratch the itchy parts of the engineer brain, in extremely high concentrations.

    Shit's worse than heroine

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  • [–] 12 points 6 months ago

    i would probably hugg----

    and then spoonfeed applesauce.

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago

    This is dumb, the whole point of factorio is to automate it enough that you can have sex for five minutes and not miss anything.

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    The real question is how to incorporate factorio into kink...

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  • [–] 56 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (41 children)
  • [–] 29 points 6 months ago (5 children)

    Oh damn, you got a source for that?

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Not the og commenter but he probably isnt those things himself, but according to some reddit thread has defended people who are those things and made some questionable comments on social media at some point about consent and minors. Im too lazy to actually fact check this tho, so you will probably have to dig deeper yourself if you want to actually be sure. Apparently there are some archive.org pages of his tweets.

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  • [–] 12 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    This person has a really shallow understanding of consent. That doesn't mean that they can't learn or change their mind.

    I'm also wondering why they think that communism inevitably leads to mass murder.

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  • Yeah was reading through this and he's definitely a dumbass, but there's plenty of those types around. Using the expletives OP comment used is unjustified and would only reinforce his ideas that cancel culture comes from the left and not the right.

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  • [–] 19 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (4 children)

    This. Play Satisfactory instead.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

    Source?

    Edit: I found the controversy, kinda disappointed but now that I have the game, it doesn't change much for myself. I'm not sure how much support there is for this in the community for this, but still disappointing to see from the head Dev of a game I enjoy a lot.

    I probably won't recommend it to people anymore now

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  • [–] 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (11 children)

    The theme of the game is "destroy and pollute the environment of an entire planet just so you can leave", somehow I am not surprised.

    I don't get why the disinterest in the theme of factorio exploring the planet or seeing the planet as anything but hostile doesn't sit weird with more people.

    If the game explicitly recognized you are the villain I would be fine with it but factorio is oblivious to this and it makes the whole thing feel hollow to me.

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  • [–] 28 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    I mean... At risk of sounding like I'm defending a fucking pedo, and also having never played Factorio, doing terrible things and being mostly evil is something that happens in quite a few games. I don't think that alone points to anything. Otherwise fuck that guy and I hope his life crumbles

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  • [–] 0 points 6 months ago* (1 child)

    Like I specifically said, I have no problem with playing a fictional villain my issue is the massive unaddressed blindspot inherent to the context of the Factorio's framing.

    I don't know why people always respond like this by thinking I have an issue with villain roleplay, that isn't what I am saying at all.

    The problem is the lack of self awareness not the make believe evilness.

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  • [–] 27 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

    While I understand where you’re coming from, you’re trying to project a story and moral philosophy onto a game that is completely bereft of a plot line. The entire plot is “you crashed on a planet. Survive and escape.” No more, no less. The plot literally doesn’t have room for moral philosophy or “you were really the bad guy all along” plot twists, because there is no plot to contain those themes. If you want to role-play that in your world, feel free to do so. The game is a sandbox with simple cause>effect consequences, not an A>B>C storyline.

    The meaning behind that cause and effect is left up to the individual players to interpret however they’d like. You say that the lack of self-awareness is what makes the game problematic, but I would argue that the individual players are the ones responsible for that. Because the game doesn’t assign good or evil to the individual actions. The player’s actions simply change the world in some way, (like adding pollution to the air), and the player is left to deal with the consequences of those changes, (like being attacked by natives as the pollution spreads and causes them to multiply).

    Saying that the game is bad because it’s missing those themes is like saying that Gary’s Mod is bad because it doesn’t force players to grapple with the realities of being a god that is able to make, unmake, and manipulate reality at will. The game is a sandbox meant for creative thinking within the rules of the game, not a narrative meant to inspire moral philosophy.

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  • [–] 13 points 6 months ago*

    Going Eco friendly in factorio is rewarded though. I think throughout the game you also realize that you are the bad person because the biters don't attack as long as you aren't polluting and destroying the environment.

    Dev is still an asshole though

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  • [–] 9 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    A buddy of mine has been messing around for the last couple of years with the idea of a game that's almost the opposite of factorio. Take a planet that's crazy polluted and clean out up / help nature heal. I hope he actually does it some day.

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  • [–] 12 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    I dunno how much more explicit it really needs to be, the biters attack you and get stronger directly because of the pollution you cause. The more you destroy their world the more they try to get you off it. I always felt like that made it pretty clear that you're the villain.

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  • [–] 0 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Really? Why are there no benign animals? Why are all the alien creatures designed to evoke an easy disgust reaction from the player?

    I am fine blasting alien bugs, what I wanted from Factorio was a more tongue in cheek awareness of the fundamental selfish brutality to the plot.

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    I only slightly agree. Koravex hasn't done enough to get canceled for real. Koravex is just typical center or slightly right in those opinions, there are too many ppl like that who are my friends and are nice to me about my minority identities like being trans. If I were to try cancel koravex, many of my friends would be weary of me and push me away.

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  • [–] 19 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    I'm sorry but the pedophilia one is enough for me. that's not center or right of center

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    Is it being a pedofile to write some comments on reddit? There are actual pedofiles out and about and we’re worried about the comments of someone who probably didn’t do anything wrong. Is it suddenly wrong to have opinions? These screenshots show possible reactions to possible scenarios. He did not come out there insulting anyone.

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  • [–] -1 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    What a strange way to look at the world. Do you spend all day compiling dossiers on the people who made stuff you like?

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    That actually tracks with Michal Kovarik’s “anti-woke” beliefs.

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