I would walk her through a setup for Anydesk or other RDP software then just take control and do it yourself. No point in causing them stress if they get click happy.

For a remote nontechnical user, coaching them through installing a Tailscale client that registers to your account seems pretty accessible.

If you can get on a screen share with her through something like Signal desktop, then walking her through the steps and pasting a WG key in chat might not be so bad.

I suggest using a client that is easy for her to update without requiring a call. Another point for Tailscale I think.

@versioncThe way ive done this is to set up the wireguard tunnel on my mothers router. right now thats an OpenWrt device. I did it while I was there but if I had to do it remote I'd buy a device, install OpenWrt and config it, and then ship it to her.

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Router based is best. If your router doesn't support wg out of box. Use a rpi or something to create the tunnel on the network and then use a static route on the router to make the remote network routable. The rpi is the next hop for whatever your remote network address range is.

Nobody mentioned this but route only the necessary traffic to your router (all your self-hosted services) with wireguard's split tunneling (just set the apropriate allowed_ip networks in your wg config).

You could set it to 0.0.0.0/0 and send all her traffic through your router but this could potientially choke your own network and make her own speed slow down.

As others have mentioned, Tailscale would be about the easiest to do, imo. However, I would still walk her through installing RDP. That way you can administer whatever may happen in the future, which is very likely to happen.

Why trying to avoid Netbird?

Where are you installing it for her, PC or router?

What OS is she running? Router?

What other remote tools do you have available?

I mean you've given us nothing to work with.

Frankly I'd just use Tailscale.

does she have a linux/mac/m$win pc? if so, you can remote into it and work there.

Netbird is great and very user-friendly. Well, relatively. I had to bumble my way through the setup the first time and redo it, but certainly a lot easier than headscale/tailscale.

Why do you want to set this up, though?

@versioncTailscale