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[–] 144 points 11 months ago (12 children)

I thought it was weird they were implying femboys can't be straight, so I went to investigate. What they mean is that men who identify as heterosexual are finding themselves attracted to femboys and intentionally seeking pornography featuring them.

https://archive.ph/Ok7z0

I'm more confident than ever in my hypothesis that bi/pan is secretly the most common sexuality.

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  • [–] 34 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    I think it's a bit of a double entendre, because it's also referencing this specific part of the report:

    As the stock of “femboys” rose, the fate of porn featuring “straight” guy porn has fallen. Searches for “straight” on PornhubGay tumbled nine spots to 19th place, just above “cruising” and two spots below “cute femboy.” (Notably, “straight guys first time” is still in the 6th spot, though it was knocked out of the top five.)

    So "straight" guys are "out" as a gay porn category and femboys are "in".

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  • [–] 19 points 11 months ago

    I’m more confident than ever that bi/pan is secretly the most common sexuality.

    In many ancient societies, being bi was the norm. Like it was actually considered close minded to be straight or gay.

    Obviously this isn’t proof but I have it memorized so I’m gonna spout it off anyway, there’s a scene in doctor who where a lesbian companion gets hit on by a Roman centurion, he tells her “oh. Well I’m just normal. You know, guys and girls. But that’s okay [other centurion] is like that too.”

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  • [–] 24 points 11 months ago (4 children)

    Iirc only about 10% on either end are fully gay or straight, with the other 80% having various shades of m-spec sexualities.

    Then you add kink/shame/taboo to the mix.

    And we also consider that many of these people are Pavlov training themselves to be aroused by their own pheromones in their goon caves in the absence of the complete sensory experience of sex.

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  • [–] 17 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (3 children)

    So I don't think that's what the article was going for (see melmi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 's reply), but also yes.

    I consider myself straight and for the most part normal for a 20-something guy.

    So far, I've only ever dated women, however I certainly consider some femboys to be very cute and I wouldn't inherently be opposed to dating one. While I'm not attracted to penises, and I'm certainly not attracted to masculine men, some femboys are absolutely "feminine enough" that I do find them attractive.

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  • [–] 2 points 11 months ago (2 children)

    Ehh we didnt need no study for that. Think about how it always turns out that rich and powerfull people are bi or gay. Hell, the us president is one of them.

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    I'm mentoring a femboy in our queer nonprofit, he came to our board retreat and got adorably flustered trying to explain to the group "why wouldn't you want to look like what you're attracted to?"

    I've offered to build him a Linux box but he says "not yet."

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  • [–] 35 points 11 months ago (1 child)
  • [–] 32 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    Yes, femboys are in... my bed.

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  • [–] 30 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    So the person in that photo got an OnlyFans or?..

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  • [–] 75 points 11 months ago (15 children)

    Meanwhile my taste In women: muscle mommies.

    Please explain.

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  • [–] 94 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    I think humanity just gets bored and wants what isn't immediately in front of us. We're bored of muscly men and tiny women so we want some tiny men and muscly women now. Makes sense to me.

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  • [–] 28 points 11 months ago (4 children)

    Im mega drunk right now but I feel like at this point whatever you like is fine and great just e mjoy it how gives a fuck how does any of this make any sense? I hate these arbitrary thresholds fembois muscle mommies whatever love is love and enjoyment is enjoyment just be yourself I love all of you for who you are I wish all humanity was as open and encompassing as all of you

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago (2 children)
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  • [–] 1 point 11 months ago*

    I use the 'In Vino Veritas' phrase to remark on instances where a bit of disinhibition allows one to come to a correct conclusion by way of letting go of a bunch of bullshit performative social norms...

    ... but yes, the flip side is that excess and addiction can absolutely warp a person, not 'reveal' them, and that your baseline inhibitions, to some extent, fundamentally are you, are your characteristics, your personality.

    And, people often say a lot of very objectively stupid bullshit when drunk as well.

    But but... a person is also to a good extent... a process, an evolving system, not a fully static thing.

    As to your example... a person who only hits on someone after a drink or two likely just has less self-confidence than a person who hits on other people often.

    But that does not mean that our ... liquid courage needer... that they cannot gain self-confidence by other means, by maybe going to a bit of therapy and learning how to be reasonably proud of themselves, removing toxic, negging people from their life, engaging in self-affirming activities, reframing their view of themselves and their place or part in the world.

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  • [–] 7 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    republican states are banning pornhub

    the demographic down bad enough in these states to bypass the bans have a type

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago*

    Possible explanation: you love complicated diets, not talking to your partner for hours most days of the week and you simply adore clothes shopping without anything fitting because women aren't allowed to have shoulders and lats.

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  • [–] 23 points 11 months ago

    HELL YEAH :3

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  • [–] 23 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    Not that I disagree, or even have the data to see what's really going on here, but... okay, look. Men have a place in porn. That said, IMO, nothing kills the vibe faster than some dude with the build and charisma of a wet potato sack. Aesthetics reign supreme here and yeah, pretty guys are out there crushing it.

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  • [–] 15 points 11 months ago (2 children)

    My kingdom for a dominant femboy. I need a body that can rock booty shorts and pigtails, with the personality of Magneto.

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  • [–] 15 points 11 months ago

    Nature is healing.

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  • [–] 15 points 11 months ago (9 children)

    Why isn't the opposite called Mengirls?

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  • [–] 14 points 11 months ago (3 children)
  • [–] 12 points 11 months ago*

    I think the opposite is tomboys and it's the older word that femboy is based on? But don't quote me on that until I've checked en etymylogicimist.

    Edit: ok, can't find any sources to back this up, but tomboy is older and in a similar semantic space, so I'm still willing to claim that it was at least the inspiration for the shape of the word.

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  • [–] 13 points 11 months ago

    I know I love my femboy 💜💜💜

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  • [–] 12 points 11 months ago

    So human types are just like seasonal paint colours? Who will be in style next? One thing is for sure...they'll all be wearing Blundstone boots.

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  • [–] 22 points 11 months ago (10 children)

    Okay so I've been thinking of being more feminine myself. I've started painting my nails and Im really feeling that direction. But I don't want to attract strait men (ew gross). How to be fem boy but attract female or other fem boy?

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  • [–] 7 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    more women want to date me now because i present as a femboy. it's hilarious, but understandable. they feel safer around me generally and appreciate makeup/style choices and my higher attention on emotions which i learned through the queer community.

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  • [–] 5 points 11 months ago

    I mean, it's a pretty effective filter. Someone who paints their nails and wears women's clothes from time to time is at the very least unlikely to be some misogynistic asshole. I'm sure there are some exceptions, but as a general rule, it's a good simple filter.

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  • [–] 6 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    My best advice is not to worry about it. Everyone likes femboys, so you just decline any invitations you receive from men in the same way you would decline unwanted advances from a woman/enby/etc. you find unattractive.

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  • [–] 7 points 11 months ago

    hunnypaint on the cover :D

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    FUCKING BASED MY PEOPLE ARE SO IN

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  • [–] 4 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    They banned porn in good ol’ straight republican states.

    /s

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