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No offense, but there is a point at which others aren't at fault and the behavior you're asking of them is ridiculous.
I'm a gay man. If I said to you, "my boyfriend has bareback anal sex with me and cums in my ass" at work, would you find it work-appropriate? Please answer.
False equivalency here, gay bro. Words mean things. Your original example was a euphemism, not graphic detail. Then you equated it with graphic detail, not euphemism. Most of the time, when people say they're "trying for a baby" (sorry, was that too graphic for you?) the meaning is more than "We're having vaginal sex." it's also "We're being intentional, have discussed it together, decided we both want it, and are excited about being parents." Furthermore, there is a possibility that this couple has struggled to have kids for vairous reasons, and are still determined. Maybe go have more gay sex and let your orgasms calm you down, gay bro.
What do I even reply to this?
Me personally and genuinely, would reply with "ok." or "cool." and that would be it.
False equivalency, obviously.
That being said your mindset is literally the mindset the homophobes have... Hearing the words "gay couple" means having to think about homosexuals and causes them discomfort and they want it gone. You literally just identifying as a gay man makes them think of exactly what you typed out there.
"I'm a gay man" might already elicit the image you paint in some people.
So not that different.
Your example was "we're trying for a baby", not literally your first sentence in your post.
They aren't saying that, though. It's the equivalent of you saying "my boyfriend and I are going on a cruise."
You are also able to use the euphemism. A queer couple can say "we are trying for a baby" to refer to the process of adopting or ivf or anything like that.
Hell, the hetero couple could be in that position where unassisted pregnancy isn't viable and are looking for the same alternatives.
We also use "I'm trying for a baby" as a euphemism for sex. In fact, my favorite euphemism is "just dropping the kids off at the pool"
Grow up love, your dad shot a fucking red hot load into your mum and thats why you're here. 21st century ridiculousness. Very unpopular opinion have an upvote.
OP does not know what "sexually graphic" means.
"I'm going to the bathroom" is sexually graphic, and disgusting.
It means ejecting urine and or feces from the body and it finishes in the toilet.
It should not be tolerated at the workplace. I'm forced to listen to this rhetoric because my shift isn't done yet, and I can't leave without getting fired. I'm forced into a sexual discussion without consent, and it's so graphically disgusting that I feel nauseous.
I am very happy to see, reading the responses, that this is indeed an unpopular opinion. You sound quite squeamish and prudish. The couple is already presumably having sex, why in the world does it bother you that they acknowledge (with a completely not graphic euphemistic comment) that they want a baby? It's not a sexual comment.
Upvoted for unpopularity.
By OP's logic, you shouldn't be able to tell anyone you are pregnant or that you have children because that eludes to the fact that at one point you've had sex. Next HR is going to remove the bathrooms from the office, because it assumes that people are pissing somewhere.
I agree, knowing other people have sex is absolutely fine, in fact I assume it as default for basically any adult in a relationship. Not using protection may be unwise in almost all cases, but trying for a baby with a partner is the main exception, and it's never been gross.
I understand that a lot of people have been raised with shame, and I feel a certain pity for them, but I'm not a fan of treating this shame as righteous.
Literally every human being around you exists because of sex. Imagine being creeped out by existing.
If I were to tell you that I have 3 kids, would you also be disgusted that I've had vaginal sex at least 3 times? Or is that somehow different?
Unpopular opinion for sure, but one built on immaturity and inability to reason as an adult.
If you were in an office and someone says that they are dropping loads in their wife, yea, that's fucked up and significantly different from saying that they're trying to have a child.
It means they’re having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.
Did you just find this out? Welcome to humanity. Every human being around you also farts, shits, and pisses too. That means if they excuse themselves to go to the bathroom that they very well may be creating a devastatingly disgusting mountain of shit covered in blood and bowel mucus that would humble Shrek himself. Does that mean someone excusing themselves to the bathroom is disgusting too?
You are focusing on .000000001% of what actually "trying for a baby" entails. It's not just the act of sex. It's the acceptance of two loving people that they are attempting to change their lives forever and be responsible for a child. It's letting other people know that a life change is coming and expect an emotional roller coaster. For YOU to focus on the sex aspect is actually kind of weird.
Thanks for the response. If a gay coworker described bareback sex to you, would you find it work-appropriate? Please answer.
Did they describe the sex though? Like came up to you and, unsolicited, said "OMG my husband shot such a big load inside me!", or did they just say they were trying to have a baby?
When someone says they are going to lunch do you say "eew, you are going to chew that food with all that saliva and then swallow it, and it's gonna travel through your digestive system and then you are going to poop? Why are you telling me this?"
Talk about sex is inappropriate regardless of orientation. A person explaining that they are at a point in their life that they are ready for or attempting to have a child is odd, in my opinion, but not inappropriate. Again, YOU are relating this to sex, not them.
Every one of your opinions is more unpopular than the last, you are the king of this place. This is for you:
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I'm so sorry to be the one to tell you this, but people are having sex all the time. I know it may be a shock, but the truth is stranger than fiction! In fact, and this is truly reprehensible, even animals are doing it. But no one should be allowed to reference it and we should all consider it gross. That makes sense.
This is a truly US level of being uncomfortable with the basic fact of life.
It's part of life. Like, literally. That's how this all works. Best to get used to the concept.
I mean, so is death, but the corpo workplace convention is that I should temper it with phrases such as “passed away” and “is no longer with us.”
I’d love if I could just say we’re fucking raw instead of the OP verbiage.
I actually hate those euphemisms and tend to say "I was so sorry to hear your x died, are you doing ok?" Things like that. Just always feel like it would be so annoying to have all that "sorry for your loss" it's so sterile.
You are definitionally wrong. A graphic description means, "Describing or depicting in vivid and realistic detail." Saying, "We're trying for a baby," would be considered euphemistically sexual at best. A graphically sexual description would be something like, I don't know..."having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her."
It might be a cultural thing, but where I live, people usually don't talk about it at work until the pregnancy has been successfully confirmed, in order to avoid the uncomfortable talks that a potential unsuccessful pregnancy would result in.
The only ones who talk about trying are often the ones who have difficulties with it. They could be getting a baby through insemination or fertility treatment and need time off for that etc.
Had a colleague who said that he's disgusted when another colleague talks about his boyfriend. He advocated it basically because he was imagining anal sex between them all the time.
Three years later, these colleagues are boyfriends 💞💞💞
Hahahahaha. I often imagine other people having sex. It's sometimes hilarious. Nobody can stop me.
Also some people get pregnant other ways. They could be referring to in vitro or related procedures. For those people it can be very difficult and expensive. Be more positive and supportive of other people's hopes and dreams, or at least be neutral.
Graphic ? meaning you're picturing it mentally ? that's you lacking control over your own brain
Sounds like something Hank Hill would get upset about.
"I'm going to go number 2" - Disgusting and graphic.
Bro, how do you think human life works? This is natural, sorry you are sensitive by very tame terminology. Perhaps you should talk to someone about why a necessary natural process causes you so much turmoil. I get that this is a workplace but is it too much to ask to allow for some personal freedom rather than sitting quietly working as a bot all day for your corporate overlords?
People also say this when they are doing IVF and other fertility treatments. In fact every time I have heard this it involved fertility treatment because otherwise they just announce they are expecting.
It means they’re having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.
Most of the time announcing a pregnancy or even just seeing kids at the park also means someone had sweaty bareback sex. Is it only bad when they announce it before the pregnancy?
This, folks, is a perfect example of projection. OP is a gay man and has worried that others judge him for his preference, so he judges others for the same thing.
The healthy thing of course would be to learn to let it roll off his back, and in calming that, he would calm his own worry about others judging him.
“I put a thick load in my wife last night”
“My husband cums inside me all the time now”
I think these are way worse
Yeah... Personally, I'd rather hear that a couple is trying for a baby over the bigoted shit I usually hear at work.
Honestly, you might need therapy. But definitely an unpopular opinion, I'll give you that.
What if they are trying to have a baby through in vitro fertilization? Your mind is what’s immediately going to sex. If someone is being more graphic in their description and talking about raw dogging and how often, then I think you have a case.
I don’t want to hear about people trying for kids either but I personally don’t care and just don’t engage in the conversation.
OP is definitely a virgin, and very likely an incel. Also a high chance that OP is gay. It's okay, you can come out of the closet.
I don't think the statement is bad, but I can see why many wouldn't want to hear it in detail.
I would also jump to the first conclusion that OP is oversexualizing stuff, but on the other hand, there are many other ways to give the information which doesn't induce pictures in brains od people who are very visually oriented. "We hope/plan to have kids in the near future/soon/within a year or two".
Same as we don't need to know people have blasting diarrhea, enough to say they have digestive problems or stomach pain.
But how is "we hope to have kids soon" any different to "we're trying for a baby"? Both implies they (are going to) have sex. And both isn't the same as "my husband is gonna cum inside me this weekend and we're thinking brezel dip since we don't enjoy missionary that much I just don't get that stimulated since his penis is on the smaller side but also I should be lying down right? I mean we are usually the doggy type of people but that's just not that good for the sperm to travel up the vag. But with missionary his dick just tends to slip out and if that happens right before orgasm and we lose all the jizz this cycle is gonna be done for. So we're gonna go for some obazda if you know what I'm saying"
I personally already have graphic images when I just hear people talking about their kids. That means these people did it at least the number of times they have children. My mind automatically goes there. But that's my problem, no one is pulling their dick out and no one is telling me anything graphic.
Because "We are trying for a baby" gives the "we fuck right now every moment we can" vibe, while "we hope to have kids soon" gives the "we have sex just like any other couple in the world, we just don't use protection" vibe.
If you are discusted by "we plan to have kids soon" you might aswell be discusted by the fact people have sex in general. In that case you simply have an oversexualized mind and the problem really isn't anymore in what words people use because any words will trigger you. You do notice women walk around with breasts. So discusting.
I don't get the "we fuck all the time" vibe from hearing "we are trying for a baby", but maybe because I've seen the reality of it; most people who are trying for a baby are informed enough to know that you don't need to go wild most of the month, and most people have been together for quite some time and have stressful day to day lives that don't allow (lust, time, and energy wise) for fucking all the time.
Usually "we are trying for a baby" implies they stopped using contraceptives and are tracking the cycle to fuck once or twice within the fertile window. It's not that different from regular sex within a long term relationship. (If trying for a baby makes you go wild and you fuck like bunnies every day for months on end more power to you though!)
But then again I am not disgusted by the idea of people having sex or bodily fluids. If they share TMI I'm usually just like "nice" or "good for you!" and enjoy the fact that they are open enough and we are close enough for me to hear details about their private life.
That being said, why would anyone at work share that they are trying for a baby to begin with? Work environment usually doesn't welcome pregnancy - it implies more sick leave, parental leave, and more emergency days off once the kid is older. Just saying "one day I'd like to start a family" makes you a less attractive person for a position. So I would always imply that I don't want kids, I don't want a family, I don't even like kids and I am infertile.
op doesnt seem to get any
Yeah, no one needs to know your fella is rawdogging you regularly. Telling us when you're actually pregnant makes more sense.
It's not that crazy, but it's a little uncomfortable to basically just be told that 2 people are rawdogging. It's nowhere near nausea inducing, and it's not really a sexual discussion. Would I rather not hear it? Of course. Is it that bad? Not really.
It's nowhere near nausea inducing
Are you sure? I find it nauseating, so I'm not sure why you're saying I don't.
If someone uses that occasion to turn to you and ask if you’re ever going to have a kid, just respond with “not unless I’ve got ovaries on my tonsils!” And then somehow that’s a visit with HR.
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