It means they're having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.

It should not be tolerated at the workplace. I'm forced to listen to this rhetoric because my shift isn't done yet, and I can't leave without getting fired. I'm forced into a sexual discussion without consent, and it's so graphically disgusting that I feel nauseous.

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[–] 47 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (15 children)

Fantastic unpopular opinion. Post is work of a scholar.

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  • [+] 22 points 1 year ago (13 children)
  • [+] [S] -31 points 1 year ago (12 children)

    Why are you upset? I think you're mad because gay people don't want to hear about straight sex practices. Please answer this question.

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  • [–] 29 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

    Are they going into detail about their sex or did they just say they were trying to have a baby?

    If it’s only the latter then it’s about as inappropriate as women showing their bare ankles in public and you may be overreacting just a tad.

    ETA: please answer this question.

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  • [+] 17 points 1 year ago (9 children)
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    It would be weird for someone to randomly walk out of their office.

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  • [+] 5 points 1 year ago (7 children)
  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (6 children)

    It's not his fault he's in a neighboring cubicle

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  • [+] 6 points 1 year ago (5 children)
  • [–] -1 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    so you do recognize that he can't get out of this without being fired or telling the speakers to stop, right?

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  • [+] 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)
  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Good point, though I personally find it hard to block things out even with headphones on.

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  • [–] 41 points 1 year ago (12 children)

    No offense, but there is a point at which others aren't at fault and the behavior you're asking of them is ridiculous.

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  • [+] [S] -33 points 1 year ago (11 children)

    I'm a gay man. If I said to you, "my boyfriend has bareback anal sex with me and cums in my ass" at work, would you find it work-appropriate? Please answer.

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  • [–] 33 points 1 year ago

    False equivalency here, gay bro. Words mean things. Your original example was a euphemism, not graphic detail. Then you equated it with graphic detail, not euphemism. Most of the time, when people say they're "trying for a baby" (sorry, was that too graphic for you?) the meaning is more than "We're having vaginal sex." it's also "We're being intentional, have discussed it together, decided we both want it, and are excited about being parents." Furthermore, there is a possibility that this couple has struggled to have kids for vairous reasons, and are still determined. Maybe go have more gay sex and let your orgasms calm you down, gay bro.

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  • [–] 15 points 1 year ago

    False equivalency, obviously.

    That being said your mindset is literally the mindset the homophobes have... Hearing the words "gay couple" means having to think about homosexuals and causes them discomfort and they want it gone. You literally just identifying as a gay man makes them think of exactly what you typed out there.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    You are also able to use the euphemism. A queer couple can say "we are trying for a baby" to refer to the process of adopting or ivf or anything like that.

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  • [–] 81 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Grow up love, your dad shot a fucking red hot load into your mum and thats why you're here. 21st century ridiculousness. Very unpopular opinion have an upvote.

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  • [–] 28 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    OP does not know what "sexually graphic" means.

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    [–] 56 points 1 year ago

    "I'm going to the bathroom" is sexually graphic, and disgusting.

    It means ejecting urine and or feces from the body and it finishes in the toilet.

    It should not be tolerated at the workplace. I'm forced to listen to this rhetoric because my shift isn't done yet, and I can't leave without getting fired. I'm forced into a sexual discussion without consent, and it's so graphically disgusting that I feel nauseous.

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  • [–] 53 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    I am very happy to see, reading the responses, that this is indeed an unpopular opinion. You sound quite squeamish and prudish. The couple is already presumably having sex, why in the world does it bother you that they acknowledge (with a completely not graphic euphemistic comment) that they want a baby? It's not a sexual comment.

    Upvoted for unpopularity.

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  • [–] 39 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    By OP's logic, you shouldn't be able to tell anyone you are pregnant or that you have children because that eludes to the fact that at one point you've had sex. Next HR is going to remove the bathrooms from the office, because it assumes that people are pissing somewhere.

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  • [–] 14 points 1 year ago

    You probably also shouldn't mention that you have a mother or a father because that forces OP to picture your parents doing the deed to make you. Same goes for siblings and grandparents.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I agree, knowing other people have sex is absolutely fine, in fact I assume it as default for basically any adult in a relationship. Not using protection may be unwise in almost all cases, but trying for a baby with a partner is the main exception, and it's never been gross.

    I understand that a lot of people have been raised with shame, and I feel a certain pity for them, but I'm not a fan of treating this shame as righteous.

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  • [–] 24 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    If I were to tell you that I have 3 kids, would you also be disgusted that I've had vaginal sex at least 3 times? Or is that somehow different?

    Unpopular opinion for sure, but one built on immaturity and inability to reason as an adult.

    If you were in an office and someone says that they are dropping loads in their wife, yea, that's fucked up and significantly different from saying that they're trying to have a child.

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  • [–] 23 points 1 year ago* (4 children)

    It means they’re having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.

    Did you just find this out? Welcome to humanity. Every human being around you also farts, shits, and pisses too. That means if they excuse themselves to go to the bathroom that they very well may be creating a devastatingly disgusting mountain of shit covered in blood and bowel mucus that would humble Shrek himself. Does that mean someone excusing themselves to the bathroom is disgusting too?

    You are focusing on .000000001% of what actually "trying for a baby" entails. It's not just the act of sex. It's the acceptance of two loving people that they are attempting to change their lives forever and be responsible for a child. It's letting other people know that a life change is coming and expect an emotional roller coaster. For YOU to focus on the sex aspect is actually kind of weird.

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  • [+] [S] -23 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Thanks for the response. If a gay coworker described bareback sex to you, would you find it work-appropriate? Please answer.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago

    Did they describe the sex though? Like came up to you and, unsolicited, said "OMG my husband shot such a big load inside me!", or did they just say they were trying to have a baby?

    When someone says they are going to lunch do you say "eew, you are going to chew that food with all that saliva and then swallow it, and it's gonna travel through your digestive system and then you are going to poop? Why are you telling me this?"

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  • [–] 15 points 1 year ago*

    Talk about sex is inappropriate regardless of orientation. A person explaining that they are at a point in their life that they are ready for or attempting to have a child is odd, in my opinion, but not inappropriate. Again, YOU are relating this to sex, not them.

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  • [–] 21 points 1 year ago

    I'm so sorry to be the one to tell you this, but people are having sex all the time. I know it may be a shock, but the truth is stranger than fiction! In fact, and this is truly reprehensible, even animals are doing it. But no one should be allowed to reference it and we should all consider it gross. That makes sense.

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  • [–] 70 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    This is a truly US level of being uncomfortable with the basic fact of life.

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  • [–] 38 points 1 year ago

    Even the Victorian era thinks you might be a prude.

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  • [–] 17 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    It's part of life. Like, literally. That's how this all works. Best to get used to the concept.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago* (2 children)

    I mean, so is death, but the corpo workplace convention is that I should temper it with phrases such as “passed away” and “is no longer with us.”

    I’d love if I could just say we’re fucking raw instead of the OP verbiage.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    I actually hate those euphemisms and tend to say "I was so sorry to hear your x died, are you doing ok?" Things like that. Just always feel like it would be so annoying to have all that "sorry for your loss" it's so sterile.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    Indeed. I don’t believe we should brush the experiences of life under a rug. These are some of the most common shared human experiences. I think the world would be a better place if we talked about them more openly.

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  • [–] 29 points 1 year ago

    You are definitionally wrong. A graphic description means, "Describing or depicting in vivid and realistic detail." Saying, "We're trying for a baby," would be considered euphemistically sexual at best. A graphically sexual description would be something like, I don't know..."having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her."

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  • [–] 38 points 1 year ago

    Why are kids these days such prudes? How do you think you got here lol.

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  • [–] 13 points 1 year ago

    It might be a cultural thing, but where I live, people usually don't talk about it at work until the pregnancy has been successfully confirmed, in order to avoid the uncomfortable talks that a potential unsuccessful pregnancy would result in.

    The only ones who talk about trying are often the ones who have difficulties with it. They could be getting a baby through insemination or fertility treatment and need time off for that etc.

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  • [–] 35 points 1 year ago

    Ridiculous ... but certainly unpopular, take an upvote.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Had a colleague who said that he's disgusted when another colleague talks about his boyfriend. He advocated it basically because he was imagining anal sex between them all the time.

    Three years later, these colleagues are boyfriends 💞💞💞

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  • [–] 11 points 1 year ago

    Hahahahaha. I often imagine other people having sex. It's sometimes hilarious. Nobody can stop me.

    Also some people get pregnant other ways. They could be referring to in vitro or related procedures. For those people it can be very difficult and expensive. Be more positive and supportive of other people's hopes and dreams, or at least be neutral.

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  • [–] 30 points 1 year ago

    Graphic ? meaning you're picturing it mentally ? that's you lacking control over your own brain

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  • [–] 10 points 1 year ago

    Sounds like something Hank Hill would get upset about.

    "I'm going to go number 2" - Disgusting and graphic.

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  • [–] 60 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Bro, how do you think human life works? This is natural, sorry you are sensitive by very tame terminology. Perhaps you should talk to someone about why a necessary natural process causes you so much turmoil. I get that this is a workplace but is it too much to ask to allow for some personal freedom rather than sitting quietly working as a bot all day for your corporate overlords?

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  • [–] 9 points 1 year ago

    People also say this when they are doing IVF and other fertility treatments. In fact every time I have heard this it involved fertility treatment because otherwise they just announce they are expecting.

    It means they’re having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.

    Most of the time announcing a pregnancy or even just seeing kids at the park also means someone had sweaty bareback sex. Is it only bad when they announce it before the pregnancy?

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  • This, folks, is a perfect example of projection. OP is a gay man and has worried that others judge him for his preference, so he judges others for the same thing.

    The healthy thing of course would be to learn to let it roll off his back, and in calming that, he would calm his own worry about others judging him.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    “I put a thick load in my wife last night”

    “My husband cums inside me all the time now”

    I think these are way worse

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago

    Yeah... Personally, I'd rather hear that a couple is trying for a baby over the bigoted shit I usually hear at work.

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  • [–] 23 points 1 year ago

    This must be an American.

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  • [–] 26 points 1 year ago

    Honestly, you might need therapy. But definitely an unpopular opinion, I'll give you that.

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  • [–] 16 points 1 year ago

    You're broken.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago

    What if they are trying to have a baby through in vitro fertilization? Your mind is what’s immediately going to sex. If someone is being more graphic in their description and talking about raw dogging and how often, then I think you have a case.

    I don’t want to hear about people trying for kids either but I personally don’t care and just don’t engage in the conversation.

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  • [–] 13 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    OP is definitely a virgin, and very likely an incel. Also a high chance that OP is gay. It's okay, you can come out of the closet.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    OP mentions being gay and sexually active in comments from over a day ago. So you're kinda 0 for 3, since I don't think accusing an out gay person of being closeted counts as accurate.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago

    I don't think the statement is bad, but I can see why many wouldn't want to hear it in detail.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    I would also jump to the first conclusion that OP is oversexualizing stuff, but on the other hand, there are many other ways to give the information which doesn't induce pictures in brains od people who are very visually oriented. "We hope/plan to have kids in the near future/soon/within a year or two".

    Same as we don't need to know people have blasting diarrhea, enough to say they have digestive problems or stomach pain.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    But how is "we hope to have kids soon" any different to "we're trying for a baby"? Both implies they (are going to) have sex. And both isn't the same as "my husband is gonna cum inside me this weekend and we're thinking brezel dip since we don't enjoy missionary that much I just don't get that stimulated since his penis is on the smaller side but also I should be lying down right? I mean we are usually the doggy type of people but that's just not that good for the sperm to travel up the vag. But with missionary his dick just tends to slip out and if that happens right before orgasm and we lose all the jizz this cycle is gonna be done for. So we're gonna go for some obazda if you know what I'm saying"

    I personally already have graphic images when I just hear people talking about their kids. That means these people did it at least the number of times they have children. My mind automatically goes there. But that's my problem, no one is pulling their dick out and no one is telling me anything graphic.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Because "We are trying for a baby" gives the "we fuck right now every moment we can" vibe, while "we hope to have kids soon" gives the "we have sex just like any other couple in the world, we just don't use protection" vibe.

    If you are discusted by "we plan to have kids soon" you might aswell be discusted by the fact people have sex in general. In that case you simply have an oversexualized mind and the problem really isn't anymore in what words people use because any words will trigger you. You do notice women walk around with breasts. So discusting.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago

    I don't get the "we fuck all the time" vibe from hearing "we are trying for a baby", but maybe because I've seen the reality of it; most people who are trying for a baby are informed enough to know that you don't need to go wild most of the month, and most people have been together for quite some time and have stressful day to day lives that don't allow (lust, time, and energy wise) for fucking all the time.

    Usually "we are trying for a baby" implies they stopped using contraceptives and are tracking the cycle to fuck once or twice within the fertile window. It's not that different from regular sex within a long term relationship. (If trying for a baby makes you go wild and you fuck like bunnies every day for months on end more power to you though!)

    But then again I am not disgusted by the idea of people having sex or bodily fluids. If they share TMI I'm usually just like "nice" or "good for you!" and enjoy the fact that they are open enough and we are close enough for me to hear details about their private life.

    That being said, why would anyone at work share that they are trying for a baby to begin with? Work environment usually doesn't welcome pregnancy - it implies more sick leave, parental leave, and more emergency days off once the kid is older. Just saying "one day I'd like to start a family" makes you a less attractive person for a position. So I would always imply that I don't want kids, I don't want a family, I don't even like kids and I am infertile.

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    Yeah, no one needs to know your fella is rawdogging you regularly. Telling us when you're actually pregnant makes more sense.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    It's not that crazy, but it's a little uncomfortable to basically just be told that 2 people are rawdogging. It's nowhere near nausea inducing, and it's not really a sexual discussion. Would I rather not hear it? Of course. Is it that bad? Not really.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    If someone uses that occasion to turn to you and ask if you’re ever going to have a kid, just respond with “not unless I’ve got ovaries on my tonsils!” And then somehow that’s a visit with HR.

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