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what is a good self hostable alternative to facebook messenger (thelemmy.club)
submitted 2 weeks ago by to c/selfhosted@lemmy.world
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just asking what is a good one

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[–] 16 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

https://delta.chat/

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  • [–] 2 points 1 week ago (2 children)

    You must be the first person I’ve heard that actually selfhosts a delta chat server

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    • [–] 16 points 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    For one to one chats and the occasional group chat? XMPP is pretty awesome and has lots of good clients (Conversations on Android, Monal on iDevices, Dino, Gajim, etc. on Linux)

    If you want something closer to Discord and host public communities or very large chatrooms, Matrix is very good. You can self-host it with Continuwuity, and there are lots of clients too (Cinny, FluffyChat, Element, Fractal, NeoChat, etc.)

    If you just need voice chat, Mumble is simple and works well.

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    • [–] 27 points 2 weeks ago (15 children)

    Matrix

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  • [–] [S] 4 points 2 weeks ago (14 children)

    but what good client that isnt designed for just businesses

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  • [–] 12 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

    Personally I like Sable, it feels closer to Discord, has call support, and "just works"

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  • [–] 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) 
    services:
  sable:
    image: git.sable.moe/sableclient/sable-next:latest
    ports:
      - '127.0.0.1:8080:8080'
    volumes:
      - ./config.json:/app/config.json:ro
    restart: unless-stopped

    Looks pretty simple to selfhost the web client too

    https://github.com/SableClient/sable-next/blob/main/Caddyfile

    Edit~~: I couldn’t get it working, moved to selfhosting cinny~~

    Edit2: I got it working 🤘

    Use this config file as a base https://git.sable.moe/SableClient/sable-next/raw/branch/main/static/config.json

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  • [–] 2 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

    I think the clients are all better lately. For Android I prefer Schildi Chat Next. For most everything else we use my self hosted Cinny web app. My only iPhone user likes elementX. Fluffy Chat is solid for messaging only, but I did not like that it can't do the voice and video calls. They may have added that by now, I'm not an expert.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (4 children)

    Cinny is an awesome desktop client, as is Element, Fractal (GNOME, no spaces support though) and NeoChat (KDE)

    For mobile, I personally prefer FluffyChat, but there's other options too.

    edit: I currently use Sable (a fork of Cinny I think), still using FluffyChat on Android.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 week ago* (3 children)

    Cinny calls an old matrix endpoint that returns 403 I’m surprised more people aren’t getting their home ip fail2banned.

    /_matrix/media/v3/config for those who are interested.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 week ago (2 children)

    It worked for me, so dunno if this is a widespread issue. I now use Sable though since I prefer it over Cinny (it's a fork with extra bits I think)

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    • [–] 7 points 2 weeks ago

    Nextcloud Talk

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    [–] 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    Matrix, and I recommend selfhosting Continuwuity as it is lightweight and easy to spin up. Your other option could be XMPP with Snikket or proper Prosody.

    Though do you have any particular features you wanna bring over from Facebook Messenger?

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    • [–] 6 points 2 weeks ago

    I tried a bunch. Right now I'm running Snikket (xmpp) and it's been very reliable.

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    [–] 5 points 1 week ago

    Fluxer (more like discord) or Matrix

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    [–] 7 points 2 weeks ago

    Matrix and element clients

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    [–] 5 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

    simplex

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    • [–] 5 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

    Pidgin, maybe. I like it.

    Edit: Oops, I might have misread/misunderstood what you were asking. If you're asking about server software, I'd suggest XMPP :)

    Though I know Matrix is very popular (as shown by people others suggesting it)

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    • [–] 5 points 2 weeks ago

    Are you asking just for general self-hosted messengers? Why did you mention Facebook specifically?

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    [–] 4 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

    Because it hasn't been mentioned:

    IRC

    Sometime also mentioned SimpleX, which I'm looking into myself, but have no experience currently.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 week ago (3 children)

    I love IRC but it's absolutely not usabale for non-tech people

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  • [–] 0 points 1 week ago (2 children)

    There is quite a bit of friction in the setup. After that, it's smooth.

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    • [–] 1 point 1 week ago

    matrix

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    [–] -1 points 1 week ago

    Mattermost

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