Y'all need different friends

What the fuck??

This isn't a meme, this is just a snapshot of a bad relationship.

I hate to say it, but this feels like an unfortunate personal experience being overgeneralized. Friend groups can be incredible. They can also be what OP describes, and rightfully calls out given how toxic those situations are, but decrying the concept of the friend group attributes the problem far too broadly.

Hard disagree on that one. If every group of people you are involved with is "toxic," then it's probably time for a long hard look in the mirror.

Where meme?

Y’all need better friends and/or partners

I think this is just a review of Deep Space 9.

Well that escalated quickly

There are shitty poly people, there are shitty monogamous people?

Meh.

Huh??

Having been in the poly community this is really accurate. It’s messy and complicated and you have waaaay less fun than you think.

It’s a big reason why I avoid people now.

You can love your chosen family, just don’t LOVE love your nuclear chosen family, or your first cousin chosen family members. Second counsin chosen family members should be fine, any chosen offspring should turn out fine and without any chosen malformations resulting from chosen inbreeding.

I'm polyamorous and believe the concept of found family can be genuinely wonderful and essential for those with abusive families growing up. But many go into it with rose tinted glasses and don't take into account any biases or do the work to undo any power dynamics. For example if there's a big imbalance in income/financial resources you NEED to work to balance that and not end up taking advantage of someone dependent on you cause even well meaning people will do so unconsciously. My partner makes significantly more money than me or her other partner and tbh I could not afford to house myself on my own. So the money is pooled and split into 3 separate accounts in our polycule to avoid the possibility of abuse. It's not perfect. If she really wanted to she could cut me off from any future money but I have savings and autonomy over the money I do have access to. I do a lot of housework but i work with the other two to spread it more evenly and minimize our labor so I don't end up becoming the polycule maid (which has happened in past arrangements).