One of the biggest problems is that, outside of early school, there's no real way to practice social interactions in a safe setting. The only real option is jumping straight in. If you're already slightly socially stunted, it can be very easy to mess it up. It only takes a couple of negative reactions to put someone off for a long time.

I almost fell into the same hole when I was younger. Thankfully I realised what was likely happening and worked on it. I'm still not good at cold approach social interactions, but I can at least now do it without screwing up catastrophically.

As long as they don't mistake making a new friend with expectations of having a girlfriend. I've had plenty of guy "friendships" which I genuinely thought would last for years, but the moment they noticed I wasn't having sex with them they pulled away to never be heard of. It breaks your heart in a different way.

Inevitably there would be some incels who claim that speaking to women like normal human beings is an attempt by the matrix to emasculate men.

Yeah. And if you get rejected a few times, don't turn that into an entire personality. Laugh at yourself.

I'd be remiss if I didn't mention this could easily work both ways and someone could talk to THEM.

Unfortunately a lot of people don't seem to want to de-radicalize young men. They'll say stuff like "Why should we? They deserve to be miserable."

It kinda misunderstands the nature of radicalization, and how vulnerabilities and exploits manifest. It can even take on a tinge of victim-blaming, retroactively justifying mistreatment based on their reaction to it

Wait there’s a specific Color to the outcome of 4chan texts?

Lack of confidence will do some fucked up things to your brain honestly

30 is the narrative online where you're pretty much 100 years old. They're convinced once you hit 30 you might as well be her grandpa. The manosphere propaganda feeds off ageism insecurity.

When i read 30 i thought: oh no, he's talking up 17 year olds.

Yeah that’s crazy to think people in your HS cohort are too far in age to you to relate

Still better this way than the Trump way

Change maxing

Anon doing volunteer work? Already a vastly different type from the wide sea of other Anons.

So I decided I would approach girls same as I would a male peer and damn did that work!

Turns out the big secret to meeting people of the other gender is to focus on the "people" part.

"Female" is generally okay when used as a adjective (as you did here). It's when you're using it as a noun when talking about humans that you start sounding like a fedora tipping Ferengi.

You're also probably covered because your advice boils down to "treat people like people"

I don't fear speaking with pretty girls because they're pretty girls. I just fear speaking with people because my history of being bullied and being betrayed by friends and being purposefully sabotaged by envious "friends" has made me fear most people. Likely being audhd doesn't help

We're not the same

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