I don't know if I could say Lemmy as a whole, but if you take a few seconds to block toxicity when you see it, you'll eventually have a pretty sterile environment.

This place seems pretty good so far.

Tildes by far. At least until the admin gets pissed at you, and since he has sole control, you're fucked. But otherwise a great place.

Furry art platforms in my experience (as long as it isn't the Nazi furries)

To give a non Fediverse answer (we're awesome), of the mainstream-ish platforms I've found Bluesky very non-toxic-- perhaps, I dare say... not toxic enough? You'll get really dumb takes or sloppy AI posts without a hint of pushback.

But I'm with people in these comments, I like this place most. Call outs aren't always considerate, but at least it keeps it from being utterly stupid. Polite corrections though are a treasure. That, and Never Slop kitties.

This one.

Real life friends

Maybe tildes?

I haven't spent much time there, so can't be sure, but I think it has that reputation.

sdf.org is pretty low key, republic.circumlunar.space is another

R/knitting was really nice on Reddit before the migration a couple years ago. Idk how it is now. But it was always so supportive and encouraging.

@Grumpy404 Diaspora

None of them.

I've been on a subscription based platform with around 30k users for about a year now and I've yet to see a single insult or an obnoxious user there. Personal attacks are against the rules and they'll just kick you out without a warning. The people there are unreasonably reasonable.

I highly doubt that can be achieved on free platform except for small niche communities.

Mastodon and Lemmy

Nerdfighteria of the vlogbrothers seem like a good group

I quite like HackerNews

it usualy depends on the size of the comunity, like if u now go into the nomadnet and talk to people there chance is high they gona be chill cuz they just happy u found the way there.

Bluesky.