I would be fascinated by a formal study in this field. Honestly, as an asexual person, I'm usually pretty quick to dismiss sexual psychology. But this seems like it has teeth.

What a title

I think the more pressing matter here is who's still paying $2/min for phone sex?

That was a great read. Equal parts fascinating and eloquent. Thanks for posting.

Great article and Jesus Christ people are weird. As a man with kinks this is why I don't associate with any kink communities. Y'all are fucking weird.

Definitely a new lens. I'll admit even then I was surprised reading about someone treating leftism as a kink, as if Tue idea of agreeing that the gig economy is unsustainable in a public setting is an absolute taboo.

On men's porn sites—including gay porn sites—there is a complete absence of any kind of explicit politics. The only exception is the rare importation to support free speech." Though there are far fewer female-targeted sites, the authors say the ones that exist contain an abundance of messaging around issues like inclusivity and feminism.

I guess that's not surprising. Unless the site itself is in danger, it's not very "sexy" to care about politics. And sexuality should (but definitely doesn't) run on a different axis to political philosophy. Everyone wants love in some form.

But alas, that was 2012. So much changed so quickly.

Famed 20th-century physician and sexologist Iwan Bloch preached that modernity encouraged both homosexuality and masturbation (long considered the gateway to moral decline). George L. Mosse writes, "Bloch, who approved of masturbation if practiced in moderation, nevertheless saw it as a potential danger to society. The masturbator, he tells us, becomes lonely and shy and loses the natural enthusiasm of youth; his nervousness is apt to damage his heart."

Joke's on you, I jacked off 5 mins before reading this but have thus far failed at being a danger to society

Really worth a read, author is good with words.

I made three lines: an inexpensive chat line, a comparatively expensive role-playing line, and a line for flirty online chess games. This last one was my friend's suggestion; special interests sometimes made for lucrative niches (no one ever called).

Your friend is currently devastated to learn he is literally alone in his niche.

EDIT: another banger quote:

Like their forebears, the gooners' focus is also on surrendering control such that they feel forced to do what they want to do anyway; it's just that what today's young progressives want to do is a lot closer to nothing at all.

It's funny how universal the desire is to be told you have permission to do what you want to do anyway but are too afraid/ashamed to.

Great article overall, interesting read.

First of all, “excellent read,” indeed.

I don’t really have anything more to add to her points.

But I wish this woman the best life she can have, and for more to listen to her.

Second.

I’d consider myself a lonely guy.

Is it weird I have zero interest in “roleplaying” calls like this for free? Much less paying a dollar a minute?

Same with guys that spend on OF models.

…Even my inner, depraved self just does not understand the appeal. Like I get roleplaying, I’ve written out/imagined elaborate fantasies, I get the appeal of the submissive angle, but I do not understand why other guys seek this out on such a phone call or text chain. And clearly it’s me misunderstanding something, as these services have an absolutely enormous customer base.

Article is in the correct sub. Thanks for sharing

This really reinforces my belief that a lot of right wing Nazi's are just hiding behind this ideology because they don't like something they consider major about themselves. You want to be dommed by a woman? Cool, literally not a big deal. You want to dress as a woman? Do it. You want to be Humiliated? Great, pay your fee or find a consenting partner and have at it! Stop fucking living in shame.

I know living in shame has a lot more to it than that. I just feel like if people could be themselves, there would be far less hate in the world.