How irresponsible, having a baby when you can’t provide for it and don’t have stable housing. How dare you?
How irresponsible, trying to improve your income and achieve stable housing instead of having a baby. How dare you?
How irresponsible, having a baby when you can’t provide for it and don’t have stable housing. How dare you?
How irresponsible, trying to improve your income and achieve stable housing instead of having a baby. How dare you?
I got a hysterectomy last summer and now people don't ask me about kids much anymore. People who don't know me well think that I am upset over losing my ability to reproduce. The people I know well know that I had a small party after I got rid of my reproductive organs. I had a custom cake made and everything.
10/10 best medical decisions I've ever made for myself
My wife had a hysterectomy due to extreme endometriosis a few years ago. We had a Yeeterus party. Our friend made a uterus shaped piñata to bash.
I hesitate to ask what prizes were inside the piñata.
I'm not sure if a king cake would have been appropriate here. Fortunately they're shitty cakes in addition to being a dental hazard.
I'm sure it must be great not having to deal with your body beating itself up for not getting pregnant that month. It might be invasive and feel free not to answer but im curious, have you noticed any other improvements or issues since then?
Someone asked us if we're planning kids at some party recently and some other friend quickly said "you shouldn't ask questions like that, it's rude. you don't know what people could be going through". The other person simply said "you're right" and moved on.
People are slowly learning.
A lot more fun is dealing with this as a can't get pregnant couple.
We’re a never pregnant by choice couple is and it’s a non-stop onslaught of “you’ll change your minds.”
We won’t. It’s been many years and we have no interest. Doesn’t stop friends/family/strangers asking about it constantly.
We enjoy our disposable income, free time, and naps without alarms. I show up to work well rested everyday surrounded by coworkers we’re are exhausted, overextended, and barely getting by. Not exactly the selling point people think it is.
I'm already exhausted overextended and barely getting by. How tf could I add a kid to that?
I think we will see a large US population decrease over our lifetime if the middle class continues to be squeezed.
The single income supporting - 4 kids, a house, cars, and annual vacations is a distant memory. We are firmly in a two-income economy without any pathways to affordable childcare or elder care. It is unlikely that we would ever sink our money into kids. We watched our parents have kids they couldn’t afford out of pressure from boomers. They now haven’t saved enough for retirement and likely will work until they die or be impoverished.
My father's counterpoint is asking who will take care of me in old age. I genuinely feel a degree of disgust knowing that reason played a decent part why he had children. Maybe he should have tried to be a better parent and spouse before thinking about that.
Edit: a letter.
It is sad that most people think this when someone doesn’t have kids.
What’s worse is that a large number of American elderly go uncared for by their kids. Rotting in nursing homes that barely do enough to provide for them.
I see many patients that never have any family visit them in the hospital, sometimes it says more about the patient than it does about the family.
I would say having kids never guarantees someone taking care of you in your old age. I’m not having kids and I’m also not taking care of my parents. They are grown adults with jobs and the ability to save for their retirement.
Unasked for opinions from everywhere when you have the ability to grow and birth babies.
Yup! My ex had this happen to her all the time especially from a church community we were part of. She would always say her doctor advised her not to have kids and if that didn’t work she’d go into detail about her body and why the doctor said she’d have problems carrying a child. Most would stop there but there were still some that would give her the “don’t you believe in miracles if you have faith?” type responses. We left the church after it kept happening.
When people perceive you have the ability as well. Tons of women who can't give birth who get asked awkward and uncomfortable questions all the time.
My wife and I liked to commiserate about how she got these and I got "hurry and get someone, anyone pregnant" like we were not involved in the decision or process
Being a woman is like - stop trying to tell me what to do. Keep your opinion to yourself. No one asked you.
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