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In my experience, they tend to tell you right away, if they see/feel interest - from both sides
Yup.
And then in my experience, I go. "Oh. Dang"
I was a bit young and just fell silent, because they included it in their greeting, when I was a guest at their place
Yeah, she was pretty and I would have tried, if I would have had the confidence, but even with the invitation, I stepped back
Anyway I'm not really big on one night stands, I need to have some emotional connection. Else it just feels like wanking into a women.
But that's me and others probably would have taken that invitation
I guess there is a gender aspect as well. One of my dude friends casually mentioned they were poly when talking about relationships. Nothing out of the ordinary, really. Just "oh, cool".
This girl I knew who I was a bit on the fence about invited me on a date and showed up with two other guys. I don't have a problem with one night stands, but I have literally no interest in sharing. Then she got real mad when I didn't try to hook up with her then and there. I didn't even realize it was a poly thing until later that night, I thought she intended a platonic hang and I was the crazy one that thought it was a date.
Not sure, I'm a dude and it was the guy of the couple mentioning it at a hello
But anyway, that was a really different situation than most people will get into - and I don't want to explain that more
Edit: on second read, it seems we were in kinda the same situation ;-)
IME they tell you even if you have no interest and the topic never came up.
Oh yeah it's okay, I'm poly and I don't mind being asked as long as it's done respectfully !
All the people I know who are openly/partially openly poly told me so basically right away, I’m a petite conventionally attractive woman who’s weird as fuck so I’m guessing that’s why
If you need sexual and/or emotional exclusivity in a romantic relationship, do ask, unless you want to go through quarreling and drama later on.
I'm very monog but most of my friends are poly. I have no problem asking people if they're poly. I honestly usually assume people are by default since I can count monog couples in one hand.
I mostly just say that I'm poly when hitting on them. I'm married now so I mention that as well. They can respond as they wish
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