Difference is, you write all that, and still get your ass to work.

Someone with ADHD faces the same world everyone else does, and a disorder is a disorder when at the end of reciting that comment you just did at the edge of the bed, instead of getting their pants on the ADHD person just sits there staring into space and sorting through a myriad of sub-thoughts created by the original one.

They might be late yet again for work, pissing their boss off and moving the counter. If they have it severe enough, they may just stay rooted there and never make it out there door, thus losing or never being able to have acquired a job in the first place.

No one is saying the world doesn't suck, least of all the people who can diagnose and help. They're saying the problems are real enough that this person is unable to shape themselves towards the norm of society. It is not a commentary on the state of society itself, even if the enshittifying of our reality makes it so that the fringe cases that were previously coping well enough, suddenly can't.