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[–] 80 points 2 days ago (15 children)

Fuck the obsession with looking like 20-year-olds our whole life. Wrinkles show the lives we've lived and the fun we've had and we don't need to hide that from anybody.

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  • [–] [S] 78 points 2 days ago (8 children)

    This isn't an anti wrinkles/aging post, it's a Marisa Tomei appreciation post.

    If you check out the pics from this year I posted in reply to a naysayer, you'll see that she HAS wrinkles now and I'd argue she looks better than ever.

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  • [+] -22 points 2 days ago (7 children)

    Then why post the one where her wrinkles don't show? You might have posted this in appreciation of Marisa Tomei, but you can't control how other people viewing it feel about it and it feels like an anti-aging post.

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  • [–] [S] 38 points 2 days ago (6 children)

    Then why post the one where her wrinkles don't show

    Because that's the post I found elsewhere 🤷🏻

    you can't control how other people viewing it feel

    Sure.

    That's just as true as the fact that your feelings don't control the intent of others or indeed objective reality 🤷🏻

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  • [+] -16 points 2 days ago (5 children)

    We can still be mindful of how other people perceive our messages. Perpetuating unrealistic beauty standards promoted by hollywood is not how I want to live my life, but you do you.

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  • [–] 14 points 2 days ago* (4 children)

    "you're at fault for how I reacted" is what you're saying right now. That's not a healthy attitude.

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  • [–] -3 points 1 day ago (3 children)

    I'm not worried about my reaction, I'm worried about the millions of people with body dysmorphia that constantly have to see these kinds of images.

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  • [–] 22 points 2 days ago (2 children)

    Looking to be in the prime of your life will always be attractive to the majority of people.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    And yet, men in hollywood are allowed to look old while women all have to look like a teenager to be cast as anything other than a witch/grandma. We have normalized a very abnormal beauty standard and the least we can do is to stop perpetuating it by sharing these kinds of pictures.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 days ago*

    In very broad and entirely unbinding terms, some women have always found older men attractive because younger men are chaotic, emotionally charged, erratic, and not as safe a bet as an older one. This is normal human behaviour, or at least a variation of it, not some one-up men pulled on women.

    I say unbinding in the sense that its a general pattern and far from a hard rule.

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  • [–] 16 points 2 days ago (1 child)

    eh, a lot of what we consider to be features of "aging" are actually just kinda straight up damage, like from smoking and spending a ton of time in the sun without sunscreen (hence why old-timey/poor farmers are stereotypically leathery and a bit wrinkly even before they become old).

    We shouldn't feel bad about a couple wrinkles, but looking like a worn leather sofa in your 50's is just kind of sad.

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