I am so sorry to hear this. I am also from a family of evangelicals, and my father was also a pastor before he retired. As you know, interacting with them is exhausting and demoralizing. I sadly don’t have any good advice for getting through to them. They claim to love me but can’t see past their broken worldview most of the time and it is heartbreaking. I hope you have other, positive relationships that are untainted by religion in your life. I’ve found a lot of comfort in the few older acquaintances and friends I’ve made who were willing to accept me when my parents weren’t. Nothing can replace the feeling of unconditional parental love but a kind word or a hug from someone of their generation is a good balm.