Despite my one moment of sheer misandry, which I apologize for...I love you guys ❤️

I probably can't offer much in the way of comfort...

NSFW, TMI...I mean, all I can offer is my body, and I doubt you'd want that :P...

...but I really, truly, honestly appreciate all of you guys. Really 💜

Without men, my life would be pretty boring and honestly pointless. And I don't just mean for sexual reasons...

NSFW, TMI...well, the sexual reasons are a big and important part of it too, ngl, but they're not the only reason.

I see and appreciate you. You matter 🩷
To me. To your families. To everyone here ❤️

This isn't much comfort, but if any of you guys needs someone to talk to, my Matrix account is:
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Feel free to reach out!

You're not alone. You're never alone. I love you guys 💜

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[–] 2 points 4 hours ago (4 children)

Okay, but as a woman, it's a LOT better for everyone to understand feminism is FOR EVERYONE. Whether its in the name or not, the point is that everyone should have the same rights regardless of sex/gender.

I generally really hate movements that separate people by the very things the problem at hand separates people by. Like... No... People are people ffs - THAT, is what matters. Equality > Equity - its better in the long term and doesn't further segregate ideals.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (3 children)

    Everyone should have the same rights regardless of sex/gender.

    Exactly. And for that we have a broader field of antisexism, comprised of feminism and masculism (and also fight against discrimination of nonbinary people - I'm not sure if it has an established name yet).

    We don't need to cram men's rights issues into the movement that wasn't created with them in mind. We can have a more organized alternative, one that doesn't compete with feminism but organically adds to it in the broader antisexist perspective. This ensures everyone's voices are heard, and no conversation is skipped or hijacked.

    And with a broader antisexism umbrella, it must be remembered that feminism and masculism are just two angles for the same problem, with a common end goal. Not to mention, gendered issues are also highly interconnected, requiring us to untangle them from all sides. It's worth supporting the antisexist goals as a whole, and then dip into specific problematic as needed.

    Now, I know, the term "masculism" was often tainted by MRA activists, who have nothing to do with equality and promoted patriarchy. But in principle, masculism is simply about the fight against discrimination of men, same as feminism goes against discrimination of women. And just as there are TERFs on the side of feminists, there's unfortunately their counterpart in the form of MRA. Neither define feminism or masculism as a whole.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

    The amount of things created without everyone/everything in mind would be... A lot.

    For a LONG time, feminism has meant more than what it was created for a VERY VERY long time ago. I concede its name doesn't do it's purposes justice... But again - my last paragraph in my initial reply.

    You bring up non-binary people... And tbh that's part of my point. If we create movements that exclude, then... Well... That's exactly what will happen given any particular movement's success.

    Chasing equality is harder. It takes more effort to push against existing inequalities than it takes to create equitable alternatives... But in the end it means breaking down all these differences people use to separate others and drive inequality in the first place.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 hours ago* (1 child)

    My point is rather to make it so that people, any people of all genders, couldn't be excluded from the conversation. As things stand, men and nonbinary people can be easily excluded should the tides turn. This is a precarious position and can lead to the reversal of the achievements we've made to guarantee equality.

    I don't mean to sepatate the fight for women's, men's and nonbinaries' rights, but rather recategorize it in a way that guarantees everyone's voice in the conversation.

    What you mean by feminism, this inclusive one, is what I mean by antisexism. If anything, it's simply reframing the terms to make them adequately reflect the status quo and exclude possibility for malice.

    If we frame it as antisexism, not feminism, no one could come and say "actually, it's feminism" and sideline all non-women from the conversation. When it's antisexism, it's about everyone. And that seems to be exactly what we want to share - to have a common goal of shared humanity.

    And the rest are just categories. It's not about some people embracing feminism, others embracing masculism and third embracing...enbyism?, it's just categories within a larger antisexist thought, coming from the idea that people should unite to combat all forms of sexism, not just one particular flavor.

    In other words, we seem to talk about much the same thing, I just want to frame it in a way that puts more confidence in that non-women voices will always be heard as well.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 hours ago

    And in this way I fully, %100 agree. Not sure your original comment gets that across personally I guess.

    I agree that "antisexism" may be a better way to frame it in a vacuum, and perhaps even in the future. But I also think that in the present it is much harder to get across than the difference between a feminist and feminazi that is already more culturally defined if you get what I mean?

    Anyways, I honestly think at this point we agree and that this conversation has become pointless semantics. :P

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