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[–] 37 points 22 hours ago* (1 child)

Lack of communication being a problem - sure. But you're conflating a few things.

  1. In modern terms, bisexuality and pansexuality are interchangeable, the terms have evolved over the years and most of the community rejects the old distinction.
  2. "The bisexual duality cannot be satisfied by the binarity of one partner" is the stupidest thing ive ever heard. They are bi, meaning their attraction applies to both (or more) genders. They aren't in heat with an unquenchable lust for sex with multiple genders. Someone can have a preference for brunettes and redheads and marry a redhead and not be "unsatisfied". The problem with closeted gay people marrying into a straight relationship is that they are denying their own sexuality, and lying to themselves. Bisexual people are not lying to themselves. They are attracted to their spouse. There is no confusion.
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  • [–] 1 point 3 hours ago

    Seriously. I'm bi. Like, objectively undeniably bi. I've had cis partners of both sexes. I've had long-term relationships with both. I'm not one of those people that's bi on paper but has only ever dated one sex or gender.

    And yet, I'm happily married to my husband. We're in a fully monogamous, exclusive, committed relationship. Been married for eight years. I said "til death do us part," and I meant it! Still do.

    Being bi just means you're attracted to more than one sex or gender. The idea that I would ever tell my partner something like, "well you see, there are just some physical needs that you as a man are incapable of meeting..." is just a porn fantasy. I don't have some irresistible need to be with both men and women. I just find some people attractive regardless of gender.

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