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[–] 9 points 5 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (27 children)

I honestly wonder what would parenting mean to me

I didn't have younger siblings to test it out, but I love being asked questions and explaining the world to others. Is it that people get tired of it quickly, or the questions are too silly and oddly formulated, or untimely, or too loud, or something?

P.S. I never expected to get so much brilliant and hilarious parenting advice, you rock!

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  • [–] 21 points 4 days ago (5 children)

    With my kids, it's not the asking of the questions I mind, as I love answering questions too! Being a dad is one of my favorite things ever. The part that gets frustrating is when. They ask me a question but don't listen to my response. It's not that they didn't understand, mind you... they simply tuned me out as soon as I started talking. And believe me, I'm explaining things in a way they could understand. That drives me nuts when anyone does this, like don't make me waste my breath! Why bother to ask?

    I've come up with a good punishment at least: I either ball up my fist and punch 'em in the butt, or I choke their pet rabbit while telling them "look what you did! This is your fault!" Nothin' wrong with that, amirite?

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  • [–] 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

    I taught some cousin's kids how to swim. I tried to teach my daughter to swim but she refused to listen. Enrolled her in swimming classes where the teacher said and did the exact same things and she went on about how they showed her the exact same things and it worked. Literally the same things with the same amount of patience. Repeat this pattern for her first 17 years of life on various stuff, it just had to come from someone else.

    She finally started listening to me this year about stuff! Yay! I didn't change anything, she just finally decided that maybe I do know what I'm talking about.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 days ago* (2 children)

    Could it also be that she saw other kids doing the same? Peer pressure seems to be a huge part of child psychology, and there are ways to weaponise it for good. Such as giving a child to classes :)

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  • [–] 2 points 4 days ago* (1 child)

    It was also the case when it was one on one with of her teachers/coaches. I'm sure someone will jump in with "it was something you did" but seriously I have no issues with teaching other kids, she just didn't want to learn from me or her mom.

    Maybe she resented us for making her clean up her room and do other chores or something.

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  • [–] 11 points 5 days ago (11 children)

    Why do you love answering questions?

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  • [–] 7 points 5 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (9 children)

    For a few reasons, actually.

    Personally, I just love to give to people, and knowledge is a sort of thing you can give that doesn't even take anything from you. The kind of look in people's eyes when everything just clicks is precious, and kids show it more openly than others.

    Professionally, I'm a junior scientist, and, being a teacher's kid, I was always grown in the atmosphere of deep respect for knowledge and education. And I want to carry these values forward.

    Globally, I appreciate the power of knowledge and believe we'll all be much better off if everyone's questions could be honestly answered. And people don't appreciate enough how many harmful and wrong ideas people carry from childhood.

    So, in short, the questions don't come from nothing, they highlight gaps of knowledge and understanding. Filling them with honest and accessible knowledge is both satisfying and awesome for the future of humanity.

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    Globally speaking, it's awareness of the state of the world and everything in it.

    But I don't think most people need a definition.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 days ago* (4 children)

    Why do you have to be aware?

    spoilerI hope he sees what I'm doing?

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  • [–] 1 point 4 days ago* (3 children)

    spoilerI kinda don't, what's your point?

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  • [–] 2 points 4 days ago (2 children)

    He's trying to show you how kids sometimes ask questions - it can often be a neverending list of follow up questions. The most basic version is a kid asking over and over "but why?" to every response when really they aren't taking in your responses to begin with.

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  • [–] 7 points 5 days ago (3 children)

    I encourage the questions (and have had some really cool ones, like why don't we have two suns, or where did the first person come from) but yes, especially young kids ask questions because they want to hear you talk, and often they are the same one over and over, or don't make sense, or are asked to delay something else. I mostly only answer the exciting well thought out questions and encourage them to try harder if it's not a good question (for their age).

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  • [–] 4 points 5 days ago (2 children)

    That's a fair approach, I'd say! Though, if they love to hear you talk, and you can spare some time for that, it sounds like a great investment.

    But yeah, being quite introverted, I can see it easily crossing the line, too, especially when I'm not up to talking.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 days ago (1 child)

    My kids are getting older now (oldest is 9) and I allocate time at bed time for talking. They have aged out of random questions but we continue with "question time" that is the last thing before "lying down quiet time" so there's a good incentive to think of questions to delay sleep 😁

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  • [–] 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

    In my expirience, they tend to make a lot of questions, sometimes very silly ones and many times very quickly they also (since they are kids) cannot understand when it's a good moment to make questions which is the most annoying thing

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